I am 39 and have been battling this for at least 20 years. It has now come to ahead and my husband and I spoke today and he said that perhaps we should seperate. We love each other dearly he controls his drinking, but I haven't ever been able to. If I don't do something serious now I will loose him. We have two small children and I don't want us to part. So why is it so hard for me to stop when I am faced with this option. My family or the drink. I feel pathetic that I cannot stick to not drinking. I have done aa and seen counselers over the years, and yet I still do it. I really don't know what to do next. We have decided to give ourselves 6 months, but he is sceptical that we can work it out. I am hungover today, and really don't want to drink anymore because I hate what it is doing. But then tomorrow I will feel better, and in a few days, I won't think I have a problem at all. Although my drinking has been the cause of many issues, he has never ever talked about seperating. I don't drink everyday, but there is no such thing as a couple of drinks with me. I am wasting my life, I don't know what to do to stay off it. I know my life will be 100% better if I don't drink, and that of my family too. I don't drink in the day, but start at about 5pm. I am sick of it, but I have been saying that for years... I don't know what to do next...
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Gee, I'm wallowing in shame and can't believe I'm the first post. Eat 3 healthy meals a day. Healthy snacks in between. Tons of water. Supplements, kudzu (and topo if you need it). Exercise. Get outdoors. Sauna if you have access, or hot bath soaks for 20 minutes with 1 cup each of baking soda and epsom salts for 20 minutes. And your're gonna have to ride the withdrawal horsey so put on our riding pants. I suggest a weekend.sigpic
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:welcome:Hello Life! I really feel your pain ... I really do. There are ever so many here who have been so exactly in your shoes. I would advise posting this in the "Just Starting Out" forum .. just start a new thread there. So many more people will see this and reach out a hand... Please stay close :h:boxer: Get the hell out of my house, Al, you worthless bastard!!Comment
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What a wonderful thing, I get to greet Life! Hello Life! Welcome! Quiting is hard because drinking is so easy. Al makes everything OK. Al tells us it's OK to forget about the laundry, the dishes even tells us to take the day off from work. With Al around Life is *Good* so we think. Then things get a little ugly, hangovers, bills, lost friends and jobs. Loved ones are worried and tell us things we don't want to hear. We get scared we are afraid - but it's OK AL takes care of that fear...at least for the moment, until we wake up the next day and things are just a little less better than the day before and we are even more afraid.
We know and everyone around us knows there is a problem and we become even more scared. What are we so afraid of? Are we afraid of ourselves, afraid of a moment, an hour, one day sober without Al to erase our fears and responsibilities? Once you get done taking a long hard look at how messed up things really are, how much pain is in your life, it becomes fairly simple. It becomes increasingly clearer what needs to get done, but it take courage to take that first step of overcoming our fears and gaining the confidence, support and strength to stay the course. MWO has everything you need to learn about what may be needed to make the right choices for you and best part is there is a whole army of real live people just like you who have had to face the same hard choices and can help you with yours. Good luck, I wish you a better life Life!
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Wow! 4theboyz, Powerful. I'm right in the midst of that, and more Thanks.sigpic
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Life ...
Welcome to your Life
You have made an amazing choice - you just don't hear it yet - because of the lies Al has been whispering in your ear. You will if you just keep logging on here and read read read - we are all in the same boat with different stories - different journeys but the same enemy. So please let us open our ears, hands and hearts to you . We know your enemy - we love your strength for wanting to fight this.
Best to you
LivAF since Jan. 1, 2008 .... It all began right here
Raise your hopeful voice, you have a choice, you made it now.
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Welcome Life... this is a good place to start. I was 38 with two small kids when I came here... lots of us in about the same age bracket. Seems lots of us we can all handle the drink through our 20's ... early 30's... we just like to party... but we are still in control.... until one day we wake up, hungover, with body shakes and anxiety and realize we have a problem and we are not who we thought we are... it's quite the journey. It's a process. It is not a quick fix. It is very real.
Come here often and read and the next step will come.
Skoots"I have not failed - I have just found 10,000 ways that won't work"- Thomas A EdisonComment
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I divorced my 1st husband through his AL abuse and the effects it had on my daughter, then 3, he has been sober for 13yrs, I have been re married for 6yrs and was doing the same as my 1st husband to this relationship, I too love my husband and daughter dearly and could not look at them the next day after an intoxicated evening(my husband doesnt drink) and see the disappointment on their faces again. I am now 34 days AF, and the support they give me is enough to not drink, because they are proud of me, I feel proud of myself, do this for you, and then see the results from yr husband.Fiona:angelgirl:
Enjoying sobriety since 27th May 2008
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Hi Life,
I unsuccessfully tried to quit drinking a few times in the past. This time I wrote down and gave my husband a list of the reasons why I hate drinking to excess, and I asked for his support. The list was long: hangovers, reduced work performance, LOTS of lost time, memory, cost, lack of trust (I hate how I used to buy more when he wasn't looking, then hid the bottles), the public humiliation of drinking more than others at social events, etc. etc. I also found this forum, which has been a great support, read the MY Way Out book which gave me some hope I had lost. I also bought and read the books, the Easy Way to Stop Drinking by Allan Carr, and Paths to Recovery by AA. You could check out the reviews at Amazon for more reading ideas. I'm now AF over 30 days.My life is better without alcohol, since 9/1/12. My sobriety tool is the list at permalink 236 on the toolbox thread under monthly abstinance.Comment
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You are inspriational. I really really thank god that I found this site. No mumbo jumbo, just real people going through the same thing. Wouldn't it be wonderful if the whole world supported each other like you people do on this site. I am excited about my life without al, I am day two and I know that I have the power to change my life, that is exciting! Me.. who would have thought. It is very early days, however I know I can come here and get the boost I need to keep going.
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Life,
Keep coming here and reading and posting. Live here the first few days, it gets you through the withdrawal pains. Then pop in daily to stay motivated. It HELPS!!! You can do it. You are not alone...Comment
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Life, this is such an inspirational thread. Thanks for starting it.
Congratulations on the 2 days sober. The first week is the hardest, then the first month. Before you know it you will be wondering why you forgot how great it feels to not drink. You can beat this. Sometimes we have to do things we don't want to do to reach the things we didn't think we could reach. Hang in there, being sober is the softer easier way whether you can believe that now or not.
Keep coming back; reading and posting. We are all here for you.
bearWhat St. Frances of Assisi said of himself is true for me.
?If God can work through me He can work through anybody.?Comment
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