It never got to court, so all that was a complete waste of time. It never got to court because of my past and my sister, my background. Surely, i of all people would be able to differentiate between consensual sex and forced sex. I was raped. I felt worthless, truly worthless. Then I began to heavily drink and this has gone until now. Despite all this happening I have managed to go to University, study nursing (still getting bloody drunk after a day on the wards) got a good home with everything you need. Lost my driving licence, through failure to provide and a criminal record that saw me in court. So I can never nurse again. Then I said ENOUGH. I have had ENOUGH. At that is where I am at.
So when I rant and rave and call people names, it is not directed individually it is my soul crying out. That is what I have learnt. You know what, through all of this some higher power either angels, god or whatever has always looked out for me. I am truly blessed. Cos I will get better and I will conquer my foe. I am 42 now. Not old, maybe by Hollywood standards, but I am not. I did what I had to just to survive and now I want to live and be the best I can. So much more has gone on but that is just a brief outline. So MADDIVA LIKE EVERYONE ON HERE HAS HAD TRAGEDY. THAT IS WHAT MAKES THE DIFFERENCE. UNDERSTANDING............
IF YOU GOT TO THIS POINT STAND UP FOR YOUR MEDALXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
THINK WHAT YOU WILL, WE ARE OCEANS APART IN SOME CASES, BUT NO ONE IS ANY BETTER OR ANYWORSE. WE ARE HUMANS IN A NASTY, COLD WORLD. WE HAVE TO MAKE IT WARMER.:thanks::h
To put a finer point on it. I can no longer continue like this cos I will die. It is that bad for me. Sometimes, only sometimes I fail to see beauty. I cannot understand things. I have to get better and I want to and that is my first port of call. Now it is just doing it. I have no choice. ALSO WHAT I MUST DO IS FIND OUT WHAT WORKS FOR ME. I HAVE BECOME SLIGHTLY ADDICTED TO THIS SITE AS PEOPLE ARE SO WARM AND I MUST GO FOR A WHILE TO TRY AND TAKE WHAT I HAVE LEARNT AND DECORATE MY HOME AS I HAVE FOUND THE WHITE CHRISTMAS TREE AND THAT SIMPLE THING HAS MADE ME HAPPY. I HAVE A DESIGN IN MY MIND.
What i have learnt from reading all your posts and stories is that each and everyone of us is not 'dysfunctional' we have all had this mass overload of rubbish dumped on us, be it a child dying or a loved one or bad past even the slightest bad name can resonate off those who may not feel worthy. It is all relative cos I am learning I am not alone, and there are not many I could tell my story to, because as soon as you start to you can see the looks. I have been called prostitute. Whore and the names. People have crossed the street when they have seen me. That hurts the most. I do not stagger around in stilletos unless it is an occasion called for. I am more happy mucking animals out. So they can judge me as they wish, cos they are not my judge. Yet, you know what I am not bad. I like walking, singing, theatres, museums, learning, living, I love animals. I loved nursing cos people said to me 'you are so nice' and that helped me realise that I was nice. For so long I have felt horrid, evil and like a judas. A misfit in a society of socially inept people, and I am not saying that to any of you. I am saying that to the souls who have had this picture book life, those who can never see beyond their picket fences, until of course it hits them. Cos life is the greatest equalizer. Like everyone here I need acceptance for who and what I am. At present I am at this place called 'crossroads'. I have lost myself. BUT WHAT I AM IS A SURVIVOR AND I HAVE NO WRINKLES, SO HEY THAT IS A START.
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