Shelley , I totally know where you are coming from, I am older than you and it took me much longer to realise - I just thought I was the fun girl and they mustnt have much in their lives to talk about what I did last night!!!I did nt realise it was cos I was embarassing them and antisocial and selfish, that Id hurt and angered them.
And then when I did come round to the idea I was being gossiped about , it was still them and their petty ways , so sack it , I d just not drink with them and drank at home(like I was hurting them), stopped going on nights out and social events and my drinking pattern became more and more rigid till I woke up and realised- it wasn't them, it wasnt me , it was how I was when I drank and it had totally isolated me and marginalised my life - it was no life, sitting alone on the the couch getting smashed watching TV that I didnt remember next day , waking up at 3-4 in the morning , still on the couch - wet .
Shelley you should be proud you have woke up and you are still young - it took me 15 years, and divorce, to wise up. you are so good and sensible to realise that AL could wreck your life and its your choice your today and your future.
this is a fab place to find support. Good luck.
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