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    #16
    How my brother in law got murdered, the family house torched AL took over my life

    Johhny my friend....
    I just read this and I am amazed...I've gotten to know you through other threads, but had no idea what you have suffered.......I am so proud to know you and claim you as a friend....
    I posted my story, too...
    I love my family more than alcohol.:h
    Live in the Solution....not the problem

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      #17
      How my brother in law got murdered, the family house torched AL took over my life

      Hi Johnny
      Thanks so much for sharing your story. You are a brave and strong man and we are all grateful to have you here. I have noticed how kind and caring you are to others, recognising each one on your threads. This is really special and I thank you for sharing yourself with us.

      God bless you
      Hazeleyes
      Allen Carr’s book changed everything for me. The easyway to control alcohol. Highly recommended

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        #18
        How my brother in law got murdered, the family house torched AL took over my life

        Johnnyh....I remember when you first posted this one.......I told you about my simular exprience. Hope your dealing with it better.....remember we are here for you ! IAD. ( I still hope your still on top with your lady ! Ha! Ha! )
        ?Be who you are and say what you feel because
        those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.?
        Dr. Seuss

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          #19
          How my brother in law got murdered, the family house torched AL took over my life

          Haha. Very much on top with her

          My wife has actually grown quite a bit in her spirituality and is fully accepting of my non drinkin (in actual fact after the lapse last year now fully comprehends the severity of my problem) and herself only has a glass of wine maybe in 3 or 4 weeks. She basically doesn't drink. That helps me a lot obviously.

          My other brother in law is actually quite a heavy drinker now and I'm trying to convince him to see the light. But he doesn't really want to. Acknowledges that he may well be an Alcoholic but has no interest in changing anything.

          Thansk Hazel for your kind words

          Mama I will definately go check out your story. I'm not in this section of the forum very often as I post at work and usually don't have the time and attention to read these stories. They deserve better then just being flown over if you know what I mean. Those are peoples lifes after all. Not just stories.
          AF since 15th March 2010

          The journey is the goal. As long as you're fighting the good fight and you're not giving up on giving up, you're winning. It's not about how often you get knocked down, it's about how often you get up again. Sobriety the goal for sure. But striving to get to that goal is what it's about. Not getting there. Because the journey never ends. The journey is the goal.

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            #20
            How my brother in law got murdered, the family house torched AL took over my life

            Still fighting the good fight. Am about 106 days AF now so as far as I was last year before the big crash.

            I'm feeling strong and motivated allthough I had some sincere challenges along the way. The realisation is setting in that no matter how big the hurdle, how bit the tempation and challenge, life does go on and it does get better again. That is one of the things I have learned over the past weeks.

            Cravings are always temporary. Given sometimes they're just a passing thought, sometimes they come and go for days. BUT, eventually they're gone and you live comfortably again. The reality is, cravings will never go. Allthough as I recently heard a guy at an AA meeting, he had gone without a craving for 6 months, something had happen the previous day and all of a sudden the thought just came up. Wouldn't a beer be nice now to calm me, etc. Thank goodness he decided to go to his first AA meeting in a while as he realised the danger.

            I've made God and my spirituality a lot bigger focus in my sobriety attempt this time and must say that the going seems much stronger and built on a solid foundation this time. There goes a saying: 'A life without a purpose is like a boat without a rudder. Drifting aimlessly and never getting anywhere.'
            It is the giving of purpose to my life that has helped me sustain my sobriety this time around and get me through the tough times. Because if I only have myself to dissapoint, what the heck.

            It's 'only' 3 and a half months into my sobriety this time. But I am just so grateful. Because I've gotten as far as I've gotten now and even though there were serious hurdles on the way, have gotten over them. Will it be sustainable and last?! I don't worry about that today. Because All I am worrying about today is getting through THIS, Another day. ODAT. And that is the second thing that has kept me on track.
            I started aiming too far ahead last time around and got over confident. this time around I will keep reminding myself that I am powerless over AL and that I need to beat today in order to be sober tomorrow.

            The 3rd reason I am still sober 3 and a half months on. The love and support of the people here on this forum. Sticking around here really helps. Not for one but many reasons. Firstly not to get complacent and just as routine to reminding myself what this problem is all about. Secondly the love and support I get from others. Thirdly the love and support I get to give to others. And last but not lease the fact that I have to stay sober to be that very support system to my family here on MWO.

            Fourth reason that I am still sober right now is my family. Not the suppportive part they have played. But rather for giving me reason to stay sober. Not that my wife isn't supportive. But they have kept up with all my nonsense for far too long and it was about time that I stood up and made things right for them.

            Still a long way to go. Because I have to keep beating this thing every day. But I am eternally grateful that I have gotten as far as this.

            Love you all.
            AF since 15th March 2010

            The journey is the goal. As long as you're fighting the good fight and you're not giving up on giving up, you're winning. It's not about how often you get knocked down, it's about how often you get up again. Sobriety the goal for sure. But striving to get to that goal is what it's about. Not getting there. Because the journey never ends. The journey is the goal.

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              #21
              How my brother in law got murdered, the family house torched AL took over my life

              You are a real inspiration Johnny and I am proud to call you my friend. xx
              "It's not your job to like me, it's mine!"

              AF 10th May 2010
              NF 12th May 2010

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                #22
                How my brother in law got murdered, the family house torched AL took over my life

                johnny thanks for bumping this.

                you are always there for me in times of need and it's great to see how far you have come yourself.

                thats one hell of a story, one that i'm glad you shared. stay strong, you are such a good man xx
                The mind will intellectualize it, the heart will emotionalize it, yet the gut never lies.

                https://www.mywayout.org/community/f9/girly-wirly-s-toolbox-2-45452.html

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