time to take responsibility

[time for a change]

i'm 27 years old. I have been drinking since about age 17. I started, like a lot of people, drinking only on the weekends with friends when I was in high school. Over the years my drinking steadily increased and at the same time I began using and abusing drugs. I am struggling to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Some days are good and some are not so good. My drinking habits have cost me countless things in my life and i'm tired of it. I don't want to lose what little dignity and self respect i have left to drinking. I'm tired of waking up ashamed of what i have done. I want to be normal but I know i have to be sober to have any chance at all. I am scared and don't know what else to do. Maybe some of you will understand.

[meditation mama]

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Welcome, TFAC!

I think everyone of us can understand, that is why we are here. it has been a bit slow around here today, so don't take the lack of relplies to heart.

Why don't you start by telling a bit more about yourself and what you are currently doing. Have you quit drinking now? We can offer a lot of advice, so please just keep posting and let us know more about you so we can understand. We are here to support you, so please feel free to ask any questions you may have.

I am very happy for you for taking this very bold step. I wish you all the luck in the world, but luck alone won't keep you from the drink, that is why I really ask you to use us to help you..

MM

[Angelcakes]

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Hi TFAC - great name!!
There's lots of great people & information here to help you - try downloading the book which'll give you some insight into the programme as a whole.
It's not easy but there's a whole lot of stuff to help make changing your life possible..like meds, supplements, diet, exercise, hypnotherapy and friends here.
Well done...you've taken the first step.
:welcome:

[peacenik]

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hello time!

good for you for recognizing that you need a change, and at a young age as well.

hang around and ask questions, read posts and read the book. we all support each other in whatever direction we choose to go in (moderation or abstinence), so find your niche and go for it, you can do it!

peace

[vlad]

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:welcome:

Welcome TFAC!

Keep reading and posting - you will find lots of help and support here!

[JIGGER]

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Hi there!

Hello,
Welcome to MWO. You will find so many supportive people here. Glad you are making this step. My husband was on life support for a week due to alcohol and a grand maul seizure. He could have died. I have learned that it affects every cell in your body. Because of my husband I have quit for almost 2 weeks now. It has been relatively easy but, i have had visual aids. For me - just getting past day 1 -3 is the hardest but, after that the time does fly by. I also have a huge alcohol problem that has cost me my dignity and self respect. I too have lost friends and have done some really stupid things due to alcohol. It is sooooo not worth it. I plan on losing the alcohol weight and looking great and when I see those people again - they will know - I have changed. I hope you can focus on your health and your future and know things can and will get better. Self-respect and pride in yourself from not drinking means so much more than the mistakes of the past. You have to be determined. Make goals for yourself and follow through. Spring is a time for renewal, a fresh start. You will appreciate it so much more alcohol free. Good luck to you and come here often - it really does help!!

[Cinders]

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Time4achange,

I tried to make it simpler but cannot. However, it does not matter.

I am glad you are here, :welcome:, and glad you are thinking about what alcohol is doing in your life. It is hurting you physically and hurting you mentally. Both suck. (I hope I don't get bannned, but that where it is...)

I am so glad you posted, so glad you trying to find "your way out," and so glad you are here.

Please read the "book" here and post. There is a huge amount of info here. My "shrink" does not think this site is "bad," she yahoos for anyone that is drinking and moderating and yahoos those of us who cannot.

I cannot drink. Period. I try to drink everything that is there. Period. I do. Darn. I hate that.

So, welcome, find out where you fit in.

Love,
Cindoi

[time for a change]

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Thank you for the advice and support. It is nice to hear from people who can relate.

Not so long ago I came to the realization that I drank too much. So i decided to "cut back." I would stay sober ...right up until payday, and then I would go out and drink way too much and spend way too much money...I would spend the next two days feeling miserable, both mentally and physically. Often times I would have to talk to people i was out with the night before to piece together the events of the previous evening. Everyone would have a good laugh...except me, I would feel ashamed of my actions and become angry at my lack of control.

That is where I'm at....and why I joined. I have been trying to quit altogether and I am trying to learn about what it takes. I am hear to learn strategies that I can apply to my life.

Thanks again for your kind thoughts and words.

[BILLYJACK]

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You dont have to wait to get my age [ 51 ] to make a decision to quit killing yourself..I have ''no idea'' how much longer my body can take the abuse, but I know its not long..I started drinking at a very young age [14 ] to escape the physical abuse that my father had done to me, and, at least in part, I become an alcoholic as a result..

I too, spent MANY a day thinking about how I embarrassed myself the night before while parting..I too, have spent 1000s of dollars in a month of just ''weekend partying''..Blowing my hard earned cash on idiot friends who were all to ready to help me spend it..

You'll have to find a new group of friends if you are to remain sober..Your partying friends will not be happy to loose you. I once stood AF for one and a half years by attending AA and keeping together a good set of ''new and sober'' friends.

Dont wait to get my age, start your recovery ASAP.

Good Luck.

[gyco]

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hi take time,you sound like a real wonderful person,youve actually started the progress,already,you realise it could get worse,i havent read R J s book,tried finding it in a book store,but was not stocked,ive been here for a while and dont no how to download it,but i didnt ask either,lol,there is a lot of no how here,once you find out how to search and use the site properly,youll find some great people,and some amasing insight,theres also ,coucilling,AAmeetings outside of here,and theres also AA online,hope it helps a bit, gyco

[WannaBFree]

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Hiya TFC,
I am coming up for 27 myself and am nearly coming up for 3 months sober YAY! I can totally relate to your drinking history. I wanted to let you know that I have been slowly but surely gaining back my self respect and it feels fantastic. I am learning to like myself and of course it can be hard at times but It will without a doubt in my mind get easier. I stopped 2 years ago for 8 months but I believe that I went back onto the drink because I did not replace it with other positive activities and my mind set was that of i thought i was giving up something when in fact there was zero to give up..drinking poison that dulls my senses and gives me dutch courage, nah i dont need that. Best of luck to you...try Allen Carr's easy way to control alcohol...bloody wonderful, I am sober and happy about it and dont live with that fear of stuffing up anymore. My life is already...after just 3 months...so much better quality and the sky is the limit now! Personal message me if you want otherwise i look forward to reading your posts and hope to see lots of them! : ) Just dont let it be another ten years before you get back onto a site in desperation.