A little history about myself and why I?ve became a member at your site. I?m 36 years old and have been a happily married man for 3 plus years. For the most part I feel great as a step dad and have fallen into that role well. I feel my step boys love me and I couldn?t imagine not having them in my life. Since college, I?ve enjoyed success in my career. In sixteen years of work I?ve ranked in the top 1-3% of salespeople year in and year out. My physical fitness level is at or about the same level it has been since high school. My weight is in check. I run upwards of twelve miles weekly and do work outs on the rowing machine etc. So from the outside things look great. You may ask yourself why am I here and what has me becoming an My Way Out member?
Well, as you can see I was a frat guy in college. I became a heavy social (well maybe just heavy) drinker in college. Before that, in high school when not competing in wrestling or football I spent my off-seasons getting loaded on the weekends with my teammates and the girls that we were trying to pick up. So looking back, I dabbled with beer my freshman year and started drinking beer regularly by my sophomore to junior year in high school. At college, I picked up where I left off. Meeting a new set friends in a fraternity that were goal oriented (academics), sports minded, women-chasing guys. I fit right in. Throughout my four years at college I pretty much partied with the gang four nights per week (normally Thursday through Saturday with another night mixed in). Looking back, our drinking pattern was considered binge drinking. At that time, my motto was get your school work done before drinking & then let partying be my reward. With this motto in place, I graduated with a 3.6 gpa (.6% better than high school). Knowing how much I like partying I'm surprised I didn't graduate higher.
After college I fell into a career path in the steel industry. I worked hard five days per week and sometimes weekends. With my free time on the weekends, I typically spent them the same way as in college. Drinking beer and chasing women as a young 20 something. After a short marriage (8 months) in my mid 20?s I spent nearly 5 years single living in ATL I picked up where I dropped off. Nearing my 30th birthday I remember being on cruise control. I was at the top of my company outselling guys that had been with the company a decade prior to me; I had just completed a marathon in under 4 hrs.; had plenty of friends and girls to date; but no one special in my life. No wife. No kids. No dog etc. The things that I thought I would have by this time in my life I didn?t have. Growing up in a small town in Ohio, I would have never guessed that I would have owned a home near downtown ATL; out earning both of my parents and then some. But still, no family. The month prior to my 30th birthday I remember having plenty of spare time. Having just completed the marathon I was in great shape and had a wide open calendar. So, nearly every night for a month I went out drinking beer. I began praying for a change during the day; while sitting at my favorite bar; and while laying in bed. A couple months later I met my soon to be wife. Literally, I got everything and more than I was wanting. She is a social (but on the light side) drinker and doesn?t like drinking around our boys who we share custody with her ex-husband. Since we met I?ve been a pretty big ?partier? which means binging I guess for special occasions (which with me seems to be a lot of occasions).
Now fast forward, even though I?m a step Dad and husband I?m still drinking more than pretty much most everyone we?re with when we go to parties or have football parties at the house etc. See last weekend (8 days ago) my kids who are 13 and 15 saw me drink about 10 beers at a neighbors house before during and after dinner. I was there nearly for over four hours but in retrospect I had a few at the house with a cigar. So a lot of beer. The thing is I remember not really dying for a beer before I started. Then, I just keep on going for no reason at all. Hour after hour. Lately I've been bored by drinking too but I still do it. Is it habit? There were others that were drinking but I?m guessing in retrospect, the closest guy had four to five drinks and one women 3 or 4. Literally, I had ten beers. I remember trying twice to stop drinking and leaving. The owner of the house remarked, ?it is early stick around, there is more Miller Lite in the fringe?. See it didn?t take much arm twisting to get me to stay and have another beer. Literally, I think that I had three more after she mentioned staying.
I remember everything quite clear so it isn?t that I had a black out. My wife says that my speech was slurred and that my younger boy noticed that I seemed drunk. Can you imagine that? After about a dozen beers this could happen? I have a lot of latitude with drinking around my wife normally but at this point ? there is no tolerance. Drinking in front of the kids to this point is intolerable from her point of view - and frankly I'm starting to see where she is coming from! In the past I would tell my wife oh it is no big deal etc. I can handle that. It really isn?t that much over the time period etc. Well, this time I upset her to the point where I felt like I caused damage that couldn?t be repaired. Two months prior to this while visiting a friend of the family a similar incident occurred. I felt like I had the green light to party with an old buddy but I drank too much and the kids made a comment to my wife.
Now, I?m at the point where I now want to not want to drink so much. I never want to be in the place where I was in my 20?s ? without a family and wife. I now have what I was wanting all those years. I want to be able to control my drinking so that I don?t binge and upset and or disappoint her.
All of this information was given to you in order for me to ask for your advice and discuss the goals that I have for myself and for my wife and kids. Again, I want to stop drinking out of boredom and stop drinking in excess around the kids. I read 75-80% of your book and am ready to get started. I want to proceed full speed ahead with the hypnotherapy cd?s; supplements and supplements and increase my exercise routine. I?m not ready to move forward with Topo yet. I am basically the sole breadwinner of the house and I can?t afford to have dopy topy syndrome. I?m not ruling it out but I feel at this point that I can work to get the results necessary without it.
Which cd?s do you recommend? Also, where do I buy the supplements? Would you give me some feedback?
Seriously, I could use some help - advice. I've called the phone number for the medical store and left my phone number and no one called me back.
Again, is this site real?
Well, as you can see I was a frat guy in college. I became a heavy social (well maybe just heavy) drinker in college. Before that, in high school when not competing in wrestling or football I spent my off-seasons getting loaded on the weekends with my teammates and the girls that we were trying to pick up. So looking back, I dabbled with beer my freshman year and started drinking beer regularly by my sophomore to junior year in high school. At college, I picked up where I left off. Meeting a new set friends in a fraternity that were goal oriented (academics), sports minded, women-chasing guys. I fit right in. Throughout my four years at college I pretty much partied with the gang four nights per week (normally Thursday through Saturday with another night mixed in). Looking back, our drinking pattern was considered binge drinking. At that time, my motto was get your school work done before drinking & then let partying be my reward. With this motto in place, I graduated with a 3.6 gpa (.6% better than high school). Knowing how much I like partying I'm surprised I didn't graduate higher.
After college I fell into a career path in the steel industry. I worked hard five days per week and sometimes weekends. With my free time on the weekends, I typically spent them the same way as in college. Drinking beer and chasing women as a young 20 something. After a short marriage (8 months) in my mid 20?s I spent nearly 5 years single living in ATL I picked up where I dropped off. Nearing my 30th birthday I remember being on cruise control. I was at the top of my company outselling guys that had been with the company a decade prior to me; I had just completed a marathon in under 4 hrs.; had plenty of friends and girls to date; but no one special in my life. No wife. No kids. No dog etc. The things that I thought I would have by this time in my life I didn?t have. Growing up in a small town in Ohio, I would have never guessed that I would have owned a home near downtown ATL; out earning both of my parents and then some. But still, no family. The month prior to my 30th birthday I remember having plenty of spare time. Having just completed the marathon I was in great shape and had a wide open calendar. So, nearly every night for a month I went out drinking beer. I began praying for a change during the day; while sitting at my favorite bar; and while laying in bed. A couple months later I met my soon to be wife. Literally, I got everything and more than I was wanting. She is a social (but on the light side) drinker and doesn?t like drinking around our boys who we share custody with her ex-husband. Since we met I?ve been a pretty big ?partier? which means binging I guess for special occasions (which with me seems to be a lot of occasions).
Now fast forward, even though I?m a step Dad and husband I?m still drinking more than pretty much most everyone we?re with when we go to parties or have football parties at the house etc. See last weekend (8 days ago) my kids who are 13 and 15 saw me drink about 10 beers at a neighbors house before during and after dinner. I was there nearly for over four hours but in retrospect I had a few at the house with a cigar. So a lot of beer. The thing is I remember not really dying for a beer before I started. Then, I just keep on going for no reason at all. Hour after hour. Lately I've been bored by drinking too but I still do it. Is it habit? There were others that were drinking but I?m guessing in retrospect, the closest guy had four to five drinks and one women 3 or 4. Literally, I had ten beers. I remember trying twice to stop drinking and leaving. The owner of the house remarked, ?it is early stick around, there is more Miller Lite in the fringe?. See it didn?t take much arm twisting to get me to stay and have another beer. Literally, I think that I had three more after she mentioned staying.
I remember everything quite clear so it isn?t that I had a black out. My wife says that my speech was slurred and that my younger boy noticed that I seemed drunk. Can you imagine that? After about a dozen beers this could happen? I have a lot of latitude with drinking around my wife normally but at this point ? there is no tolerance. Drinking in front of the kids to this point is intolerable from her point of view - and frankly I'm starting to see where she is coming from! In the past I would tell my wife oh it is no big deal etc. I can handle that. It really isn?t that much over the time period etc. Well, this time I upset her to the point where I felt like I caused damage that couldn?t be repaired. Two months prior to this while visiting a friend of the family a similar incident occurred. I felt like I had the green light to party with an old buddy but I drank too much and the kids made a comment to my wife.
Now, I?m at the point where I now want to not want to drink so much. I never want to be in the place where I was in my 20?s ? without a family and wife. I now have what I was wanting all those years. I want to be able to control my drinking so that I don?t binge and upset and or disappoint her.
All of this information was given to you in order for me to ask for your advice and discuss the goals that I have for myself and for my wife and kids. Again, I want to stop drinking out of boredom and stop drinking in excess around the kids. I read 75-80% of your book and am ready to get started. I want to proceed full speed ahead with the hypnotherapy cd?s; supplements and supplements and increase my exercise routine. I?m not ready to move forward with Topo yet. I am basically the sole breadwinner of the house and I can?t afford to have dopy topy syndrome. I?m not ruling it out but I feel at this point that I can work to get the results necessary without it.
Which cd?s do you recommend? Also, where do I buy the supplements? Would you give me some feedback?
Seriously, I could use some help - advice. I've called the phone number for the medical store and left my phone number and no one called me back.
Again, is this site real?
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