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[Gold]

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Hi The New Me,

Thanks for sharing your story. I feel that when life falls down around us in many if not all areas it is offering us an opportunity to grow, and you have found that your healing is the most important thing right now. Before too long your achievements and your healing will come together and you will be stronger, more effective and understanding than ever.

I know this is an oft bandied phrase but everything happens for a reason, and it does make us stronger if we accept it. Drinking I now see keeps us stuck, even though it feels like the answer at the time.

[Long Road]

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I have had A MAJOR bad day today. Heal me for I am sick

[Gold]

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What has happened Long Road?

[Long Road]

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OK here goes,
1. The aust Fed is screwinging with my US passport
2. I've been restricted due to swine flu in the region (fair enough)
3. iPhone carriers are screwing with my OS reach
4. My mother thinks I'm pushing myself too hard
5. My apartment sale won't go through until 2 days before I leave for the US
6. I have to finalise my new apartment deal (U guessed) 2 days before I leave for the US
I could go on.
I have nothing to complain about but today it got me agro.
With all serenity and joy
LR

[Beaches]

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New Me, thank you so much for sharing your story. I am very happy you are here and congrats on your AF days.

Long Road-hope it all gets better.

[Gold]

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Perhaps you are pushing yourself too hard Long Road, expecting too much of yourself, and these hurdles are a way to get you to step back and let things sort themselves out if you have done all that you can do.

I hope everything sorts out for you :sun:

[sparrow]

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Welcome New'
You sound very smart,and insightful. You writing is much better than mine and I grew up here. I'm sure you will find all kinds of support here. Please read and post what you have to say is improtant to us too! I have 41 days Af and I honestly never want to drink again. I have alot of problems but Alcohol dosn't help any of them'
I really want to be alcohol free ,and grow old gracefully, with my dignity intact.
Check out the chat room,It's fun just jump right in.
Your new mwo friend
Sparrow

[Anjicia]

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Great to read your story new me. Its very inspiring and you have acheived so much. Well done.

[brightlite]

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Hi New,

I had a similar experience with a narcissistic ex-boyfriend that sent me over the edge and into daily wine addiction. He was also controlling, a habitual liar and cheating on a continual basis unbeknownst to me. I was crushed and have not been able to date any other man successfully since.

I wish you strength in your struggle and will watch for you on the boards.

Bright

[Tulipe]

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Hello NM,
Thank you for sharing your story. I too have an MBA from a prestigious Ivy, and although I grew up in the US my family has Eastern European roots. Long history of alkies in my family, on both sides, actually. And, like you, at 45, I have decided that I better get my act together or I am risking losing it all.
I see lots of determination and resillience in your story. Despite professional disappointments, adverse global conditions, a proud yet closed-minded family, you have bounced back many times. I think this shows your strength and capabilities. You can beat it. I think that the most important step at first is to break the physical addiction. How has that gone?

Second, I see that you have a pattern of choosing romantic partners who are not good for you. Were you in love, or were they convenient enablers? Not judging, just wondering. There's a concept of self-worth involved in the boyfriends we choose.

Anyway you are in a good place here. This site has helped me immensely. I don't think I could have made it to where I am without it. Also NY is a fantastic city, although probably a bit hot at the moment. I wish you great fortune on your journey.

[brightlite]

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NM,

I tried to send you an answer to your PM. But I received a message that you were not receiving PM's. Please check your settings and I resend it.

Tulipe, you sound very wise. Yes I completely understand about the self-worth and choosing of a boyfriend.

Bright.

[The New Me]

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Try again

Hi Brightlite

I checked my settings and my PM is enabled. I added you to my buddy list, so it may help. Please try to send your message again. You did get mine, right?
I look forward to geting your PM

[rolypoly]

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Hi New,
Thanks for sharing. It is always good to have different perspectives on how we all wound up here.
You are doing a good job getting your life back on the track you have chosen.
Please give yourself plenty of slack for the 'imperfect moments'.
You will be one of the role models I find on here.
I am not brave enough to share my story...thanks for yours.
Roly