Announcement

**SKendall** · August 30, 2009, 12:00 AM

Im new here, this is my story.

Hi Nevyn, from you post I hear so much pain. You used the term "fortnight", so I am guessing you are in the UK or the Commonwealth.

Please do not despair there are so many people on this site who have suffered, been suicidal, have lost family members, etc.

You are worthy of a good life and you will get all of the emotional help here on this site, but you may need to see a physician for help.

In the meantime, take lemon water, vitamins and try to taper off the best you can.

**nevyn42** · August 30, 2009, 12:08 AM

Im new here, this is my story.

Yeah im in Perth, Australia. Part of the colonies you know...lol.

**tawnyfrog** · August 30, 2009, 12:14 AM

Im new here, this is my story.

Hi Jason - I just want to say "Welcome". I remember how hard it was to make that first post and also how liberating it was to finally admit I had a problem.

Stick around. Read as many posts as you can absorb and know that you're not alone. It can get better.

**SKendall** · August 30, 2009, 12:22 AM

Im new here, this is my story.

Jason, I hope you are doing better. On a lighter note, I didn't think you were drinking the UK wine, lol. The wine from Oz seems to be so much better, but not good for problem drinkers.

Stay with us. We will help. Our grand member from Oz, Tawny is on hand and she will help by either kicking your Ozzy butt, or giving you the emotional support you need.

There is a great deal of hope on this site. Hang on.

**ChickenNumber3** · August 30, 2009, 12:23 AM

Im new here, this is my story.

Nevyn,you have done well to find this place. Keep reading and posting,we are all interested in you and want to help you...we are all needing help as well..so you don't have to feel alone in that!
Please taper down your drinking first...don't do it cold turkey as it could go badly for you and make things alot worse! Please ask for advise from the old hands (I'm not one yet!) and use their wisdom and experience to help you break the cycle.
NO one here can take away the pain of your previous experience, but we can be here for you when you need us to get through the hard times. Even if it just feels like one big hard time right now...we are here and interested! So keep talking to us all! By the way, you live in my neck of the woods/colonies!
Work out a plan on how you are going to approach getting AL out of your life!
All the best with it,
Chicken

**nevyn42** · August 30, 2009, 12:51 AM

Im new here, this is my story.

Hi Chicken,
thanks for your reply you all seem like nice lovely people.
I think the thing for me is that my career is focused on alcohol - I sell the bloody stuff to people. And not in a shop, I am consultant and have spent many years training and building a client base - so leaving this position is not something Im prepared to do (I like the money).
Also the massive comsumption of alcohol has left me un-fit, overweight and my face looks 30 years older than it did 12 months ago - lol.

**Gold** · August 30, 2009, 01:53 AM

Im new here, this is my story.

Hi Jason,

At least you've taken steps to making changes for yourself. Personally I don't see that your consumption of alcohol is necessarily linked to your career you must have been doing this for a number of years without adverse effects on you?

These things that have happened to you, your father's suicide and your partner leaving abruptly are terrible emotional trauma's, and still very recent. How have you dealt with them? (You don't need to say, but they are of importance to your being able to turn things around for yourself.)

It feels as though you are punishing yourself, and it's almost as if you've cast yourself in the role "nothing but an alcoholic wine consultant making big bucks but drinking it all away... ". I am certain you deserve much more than that, and you will find a way out of this.

:welcome:

**nevyn42** · August 30, 2009, 02:18 AM

Im new here, this is my story.

Hi Gold
I have been seeing a psychotherapist once a week and a psychiatrist once a month for about 6 months. I enjoy the sessions and leave every time thinking "Today will be different". Then I get home. Lol.

**startingover** · August 30, 2009, 02:45 AM

Im new here, this is my story.

Hi Jason,
Well done for taking the first step and writing your story here. You have been through some horrible times recently, its hardly surprising they have affected you like they did.
Trying every possible avenue to get this monkey off our backs is so important. You will find your way.
I too was earning good money last year and drinking it all away. Now I am earning nothing but I am sober and happy.
Do you have any plans to stop or cut down? Here there are many people who can help you day by day with inspiration and motivation to keep going. With the amount you are drinking, please dont quit cold turkey, I would seriously advise you to seek medical help to stop.
Thanks for sharing your story, it cant have been easy and please stay in touch.
Best wishes to you.

**Gold** · August 30, 2009, 02:59 AM

Im new here, this is my story.

It's going to take time Jason and maybe you are expecting too much of yourself, you sound like someone who has done well and achieved good things, but healing as you are doing finds its own way.

Perhaps begin with a plan to cut down as startingover has suggested, there is a guy here, tiptronic, who began by cutting down and now has probably 10 days free of alcohol and doing really well, have a look at his story and progress.

And have fun, there are very bright and funny people here.

**mario** · August 30, 2009, 03:22 AM

Im new here, this is my story.

:welcome: jason just like to say hello.you have found a great place with great support.And with people who can truly relate to what your saying,there are many threads here check them out,they are a great help :goodjob:

**JackieClaire** · August 30, 2009, 03:53 AM

Im new here, this is my story.

:welcome:

Hi Jason,

Stick close. Read the posts. Lots of good kind people here.

SHOUT if you need any help.

Wishing you all the best at the start of your journey, whichever path you choose.

Love Jackie xxx

AF (alcohol free) since 7/7/2009

**nevyn42** · August 31, 2009, 05:39 AM

Im new here, this is my story.

Well guys today was a struggle....and I crashed

Im on leave from work to get myself sorted for 3 weeks and I spent the day alone watching movies and started drinking...arghh... why do I enjoy it so much... ? I didnt drink anything yesterday though...lol

**Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)** · August 31, 2009, 05:51 AM

Im new here, this is my story.

Hi Jason and welcome. You have been through so much in the last year my heart goes out to you. You have found a great place here full of wonderful people who all struggle with AL. You have taken the first important step by coming here and sharing with us. You will get support, advice and help, no one judges.
Have you downloaded the WMO book? I found it a great help in formulating a plan of action. The first thing is not to pick up that next drink, easier said than done, I know. Take it one day at a time, one hour at a time if need be but this can be done. Keep close to the boards and post if you need anything.
Keep safe
KTAB

Welcome Guest to My Way Out Forums.

Announcement

Im new here, this is my story.

Im new here, this is my story.

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment

Comment