Hello everyone,
I am new here,i have no addictions,although i was addicted to gambling many years ago,and like the alcoholic who works in the bar,i worked in the casino biz for 20 years.For 15 years i have been in another profession and do not gamble or even step into a casino.
I watched many lives destroyed from gambling,and met people who have since commited suicide and are no more.
I began to study pyhcology,and started to see the ways the mind changes at various stages in gambling process.To cut a long story short,i started to belive that the chemicals in the brain start to change at diffrent points,depending on the level of loss or winning.Those who were losing a lot became quieter and more withdrawn the more they lost,if they started to win,thier personality began to change accordingly.If they began to win and actualy make profit,they became louder,more friendly.The more they won the louder and more social they became with the surounding people.The same winners,would revert back to the quiet depressed,angry state when the losing streak began to take hold.
None of them had the ability to stand up and walk away with the winnings.
I felt that the "losers" needed the chemical fix from within the brain that led them to have the high and low feelings they experienced.
The rush of adreneline,from a winning or losing bet,was the one thing that seemed to bring them back on a daily basis.
For myself,i discovered a way to get my adreneline fix,without using money in its basic form in a risk fashion that was designed to make me lose in the long run.
If what i do for a living now is classed as gambling,then i am still an addict,but the diffrence is that i use my judgement to make sure that the odds are stacked in my favour and although i sometimes lose,i know that in the overall scheme of life,i become a winner.
I use my knowledge and experience to place my "bets",and generally know before i part with my money that i will win,as i have the learnt knowledge to turn my money into a winning and profitable "bet",I am an antiques dealer.
When i do lose,it is due to carelessness,(breaking an expensive vase,for example),a deed of breaking trust(were i give the item on credit,and never get paid),or simple stupidity(were i may buy an item and not check it is not damaged or do not bother to research it enough).
The feelings i got when gambling,in winning or losing are the same in buying and selling antiques,they give me the same rush of blood or feelings of depression,depending on the outcome from using my judgement(as in gambling) .
Coupled with a balanced diet,and physical exercise,i find my brains chemicals are kept under control,and i do not have the horrible feelings i had on a daily basis years ago,when all i could think about all day was were i could get the money for the next bet.
I also find that i am more at peace with myself,because i actualy know what tomorrow should bring,wereas in gambling,no matter how much i had,it could all be gone in hours.
I have no idea if my story can help anyone,but for those with a gambling addiction,if it inspires just one person to get thier life under thier own control,then it was worth taking my time to write these words.
Luck to me,is not an outside force,it is a force within the soul,if the soul makes the right decisions,the luck comes by itself,i now belive,i make my own luck,which translates into my peace of mind.It is not for a horse to decide ,or a croupier turning the right or wrong card,or the ball to fall into the right number for me to feel i had a good or bad day.The decision making which brings me luck on a daily basis includes the thought that i will not place my money on a risk that is stacked against me.
A one pound bet on the lottery at 17 million to one odds against me is a foolish move,and betting the one pound on an antique or collectors item i know to be worth ten pounds,is the much better,peace of mind giving action i now prefer to take.
Good luck,to everyone with any type of addiction....take back control of your mind...and be proud,even if you have nothing else...the feeling of self control,is better than money,drugs,drink or even sex...AND...with that control,when mastered,all of those things are still there to tempt you,but because you are the master,you obtain PEACE.
(Those who do not wish to be the master of thier own lives,probrably don't come onto this type of website.):new:
I am new here,i have no addictions,although i was addicted to gambling many years ago,and like the alcoholic who works in the bar,i worked in the casino biz for 20 years.For 15 years i have been in another profession and do not gamble or even step into a casino.
I watched many lives destroyed from gambling,and met people who have since commited suicide and are no more.
I began to study pyhcology,and started to see the ways the mind changes at various stages in gambling process.To cut a long story short,i started to belive that the chemicals in the brain start to change at diffrent points,depending on the level of loss or winning.Those who were losing a lot became quieter and more withdrawn the more they lost,if they started to win,thier personality began to change accordingly.If they began to win and actualy make profit,they became louder,more friendly.The more they won the louder and more social they became with the surounding people.The same winners,would revert back to the quiet depressed,angry state when the losing streak began to take hold.
None of them had the ability to stand up and walk away with the winnings.
I felt that the "losers" needed the chemical fix from within the brain that led them to have the high and low feelings they experienced.
The rush of adreneline,from a winning or losing bet,was the one thing that seemed to bring them back on a daily basis.
For myself,i discovered a way to get my adreneline fix,without using money in its basic form in a risk fashion that was designed to make me lose in the long run.
If what i do for a living now is classed as gambling,then i am still an addict,but the diffrence is that i use my judgement to make sure that the odds are stacked in my favour and although i sometimes lose,i know that in the overall scheme of life,i become a winner.
I use my knowledge and experience to place my "bets",and generally know before i part with my money that i will win,as i have the learnt knowledge to turn my money into a winning and profitable "bet",I am an antiques dealer.
When i do lose,it is due to carelessness,(breaking an expensive vase,for example),a deed of breaking trust(were i give the item on credit,and never get paid),or simple stupidity(were i may buy an item and not check it is not damaged or do not bother to research it enough).
The feelings i got when gambling,in winning or losing are the same in buying and selling antiques,they give me the same rush of blood or feelings of depression,depending on the outcome from using my judgement(as in gambling) .
Coupled with a balanced diet,and physical exercise,i find my brains chemicals are kept under control,and i do not have the horrible feelings i had on a daily basis years ago,when all i could think about all day was were i could get the money for the next bet.
I also find that i am more at peace with myself,because i actualy know what tomorrow should bring,wereas in gambling,no matter how much i had,it could all be gone in hours.
I have no idea if my story can help anyone,but for those with a gambling addiction,if it inspires just one person to get thier life under thier own control,then it was worth taking my time to write these words.
Luck to me,is not an outside force,it is a force within the soul,if the soul makes the right decisions,the luck comes by itself,i now belive,i make my own luck,which translates into my peace of mind.It is not for a horse to decide ,or a croupier turning the right or wrong card,or the ball to fall into the right number for me to feel i had a good or bad day.The decision making which brings me luck on a daily basis includes the thought that i will not place my money on a risk that is stacked against me.
A one pound bet on the lottery at 17 million to one odds against me is a foolish move,and betting the one pound on an antique or collectors item i know to be worth ten pounds,is the much better,peace of mind giving action i now prefer to take.
Good luck,to everyone with any type of addiction....take back control of your mind...and be proud,even if you have nothing else...the feeling of self control,is better than money,drugs,drink or even sex...AND...with that control,when mastered,all of those things are still there to tempt you,but because you are the master,you obtain PEACE.
(Those who do not wish to be the master of thier own lives,probrably don't come onto this type of website.):new:
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