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    My first time here!

    I have a huge story, I may post that at some point. I will just start out with what made today be the day I came here.

    I drank last night, as I am beginning to do on a nightly basis now. When I drink, I take things literally, then get very defensive, or emotional. You never know which way my roller coaster is going to take me.

    I then usually end up fighting with my husband, who adores me. I have not even been married a year, and he threatened to leave me last night. Of course I was drunk and really did not care. I did not comment, I just ignored him.

    Yes I say alcohol is not a problem for me, I go to work every day, I don't drink during the day.

    Here is the email I received from him today.

    I guess we need to figure out what the heck we are going to do about us. I am so tired of fighting with you. It seems as if anytime we drink it ends up in a fight. I am done drinking for awhile. I am going back to every now and then drinking. I sure hope you can do the same. I will not sit and watch you drink a bottle of wine or a bunch of beers every night of the week anymore. The only time you and I fight is when we are drinking. I am not blaming you or me, I blame the alcohol. If it is not something you are willing to change then you need to let me know. I will move out to the camper until we sell it.

    I do not want us to end, but what is the point if all we do is drink and fight. We are becoming the couple no one wants to invite over anymore cause we end up fighting. I can feel it already. Please think about this, I want you to be happy, if I am pinning you down from what you really want, then that is what you should do.

    I feel as if you are pushing me away with every fight. I want to be with you and only you, nobody else. I love you very much. Please do not look at this bad, this is me trying to figure out the best thing.
    :upset:

    So, this is why I am here! I ordered Kudzu Rescue...has anyone tried that?
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    #2
    My first time here!

    welcome and you are at the right place just do your best and ask all the qusetions you need to ..
    :beach: life does change as long as you are willing to change yourself ..
    best thing about the future it comes one day at a time..

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      #3
      My first time here!

      I can really relate to your situation. Except I quit drinking and my husband did not. It's probably a great time to take a look at your drinking habit--sounds like he loves you a lot!
      Read "My Way Out" and try the program. After about 60 days alcohol free you will be amazed at how much better everything is.
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      NF since June 1, 2008
      AF since September 28, 2008
      DrunkFree since June 1, 2008
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      :wings: In memory of MDbiker aka Bear.
      5/4/2010 In loving memory of MaryAnne. I pray you've found peace my friend.
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      The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you.ray:

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        #4
        My first time here!

        :welcome: Tirgger or Trigger

        You are in the right place from what you posted. Folks here have been where you are and much much worse as well, I am sure. Your husband is very very worried about you and him. I suspect he has witnessed how you change when you are under the influence. Sounds like you probably get a bit ornery when drinking.

        Can you quit? Do you want to quit? Are you a happy drunk or ornery? How important is your marriage in relation to AL?

        Maybe stupid questions but the answers will tell you a lot.


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          #5
          My first time here!

          Hi Tirgger and :welcome: I was a raving lunatic alcoholic who managed to go to work every day and make a good living despite my alcohol addiction and abuse. For me, ability to hold down a job is not the test of whether alcohol is a problem.

          If you end up with negative consequences as a result of drinking alcohol, then I would say alcohol is a problem. If drinking is causing your husband to want you to choose between him and alcohol, then in my own opinion, this is a problem.

          I struggled mightily for years trying to deny my own problem with alcohol. I blamed anyone and anything I could for my excessive drinking. I also did a lot of what you describe - end up in fights with my husband nearly every time I drank, which was every day. I'm so thankful that I finally woke up to the fact that it was NOT "his fault" that we were fighting. I became nasty and difficult when I drank. That was the problem.

          Had I not stopped drinking, I would have ended up without my husband. He is such a good man and that would have been an absolute tragedy.

          One of the hardest parts of this journey for me was getting totally and brutally honest with myself. Until I did that, I couldn't find my way out. I encourage you to get completely honest with yourself.

          I suggest downloading and reading the My Way Out book from the Health Store if you haven't already. Kudzu is just one small part of the recommended program.

          Strength and hope to you,

          DG
          Sobriety Date = 5/22/08
          Nicotine Free Date = 2/27/07

          One day at a time.

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            #6
            My first time here!

            Tirgger,
            Well...my story reads nearly exactly the same as doggygirl's story. For many, many years, I held down a full time job, a very responsible and high level position. But, when I drank, my personality totally changed and I acted out horribly!

            Alcoholics come in all shapes and sizes, all ages, and from every walk of life. Alcohol is an equal opportunity addiction. But the way that our addiction operates can look quite different from another. Some drink during every waking hour, others drink only at night, still others drink several nights a week, yet all have the same disease.

            Your husband sounds like a good man who truly loves you. It also sounds like he has identified the problem fro much unhappiness. I give him a lot of credit for stepping back, deciding to stop drinking and re-evaluating where you two are right now. I guess, what happens from here on is up to you.

            Good Luck!
            A Dream is a Wish Your Heart Makes~Cinderella

            AF 12/6/2007

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              #7
              My first time here!

              I drank last night too. I live alone and am very lonely. I wish my life would get better so the first thing is the booze it is going to go Last drink about 2am in the morning I had a great night out and felt like s--- this morning. I didn't have much to feel so bad. That chocolate martini brought me to my knees

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