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    Another newbie here

    I am so thrilled to have found this website and this forum. I really thought I was "the only one" in this predicament! I am 53, married, no kids, home biz, and feel like I have "no life" other than drinking and eating. Of course, this isn't entirely true... I really should be quite happy with many aspects of my life.

    I am significantly overweight from my two bad habits. Overdrinking leads to overeating...day after day after day...for the last 25 years. Currently I am trying to go 28 days AF for the month of Feb as I am also doing a "detox". I am on day 4 of being AF, and wondered how I was going to continue because of the evening before dinner cravings...until I read some of these posts. If you can do it, I can, too!

    My ultimate goal is to be a modder (did I get that right?) but right now I want to quickly shed some weight and feel physically and mentally better. I am going on vacation in early March and I plan to drink, but moderate.

    Dh is a problem drinker as well, more so than me. He is limiting himself to one hard drink (in a large glass) while I go cold turkey.

    I do not want to take drugs of any kind. Does anyone know if the L-Glut will work alone? I am actually including it in my diet as of a few days ago in a product called IntestiNew.

    Thanks in advance for the knowledge and support.
    "We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections."
    ~John Lennon

    Whether you think you can or think you can't, you're right.

    ~Author Unknown

    #2
    Another newbie here

    Hi Dip- Day 4 is great! it's also good that your husband is cutting down-so, you're in this together! Don't know about the L-Glut-but, welcome aboard!
    Luv, Fluff
    It's always YOUR choice!

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      #3
      Another newbie here

      Hey we have alot in common. I too am 53 work at home, live with hubby and find the early evening the most difficult to fight cravings. He drinks whatever he wants and does not feel it's too much. I need to lose weight and am going on a trip in April too where I will drink moderately. Want to go Alcohol Free TOGETHER?? for the month of March. Come On we can do it. I have failed every time I have tried if that makes you feel better. Let's be successful together... Are you in?
      Tipplerette

      I do this for my children, my grandchildren, my health, my peace of mind, and mostly for the opportunity to learn to live with my true, unfiltered, clear-headed, vulnerable self.

      "If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading."
      ? Lao-Tzu

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        #4
        Another newbie here

        Hey, Dip! Congrats on day 4! We have alot in common, too. My husband drinks alot and that influences me to drink. I felt like I had no life, but drinking until I came to this site and it has been a lifeline for me! Everyone here is so great to encourage you when you need encouragement. Please keep posting and coming back here! We'll love you through the good times and the bad times!
        I'm not what I should be, I'm not what I could be. I'm definetly not who I want to be,
        but I'm sure not who I used to be!

        There is no pit so deep that God's love is not deeper still.

        "I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS ME." Phil 4:13

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          #5
          Another newbie here

          :welcome:Hi to the newbies - this is a great site. Keep posting and reading, and don't get discouraged if you have a slip.My AF days have increaed slowly but surely since being on this site.
          make the least of the worst, and the most of the best - everyday.

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            #6
            Another newbie here

            Hi, hey dipgal, I too am new to this site, and want to become a modder..but for now going totally alcohol free..or af...im going for 45 days, lent..started on feb.17th..haven't slipped up, YET..hoping not to. my reasons are alot like yours, need to loose lbs. love to drink, and that makes me eat more, and enjoy that too much...wanna loose 35lbs..but be happy w/at least 25ish..lost bout 7 so far. have to go home in spring..may or june and hate to see family this heavy..so let's do this together..oh my hubby is doing it too..so it helps me some..but need more company...yes we can do this..let's do it together.

            Im with ya all the way...
            :thanks::new::h

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              #7
              Another newbie here

              Hi Everyone,
              I just found this site today while I was home sick from work a second day due to hangovers. I too am 53, but I'm single and childless except for my furkids who I love to death but know I'm not doing right by them. I'm too tired in the morning to take them for a walk and when I get home at nite all I can think about is that first glass of wine and how good I'll feel. Unfortunately it always turns into 5 or 6 until I pass out. Sometimes I wake up at 3am with heart pounding, sweats, stuffy nose etc; sometimes I sleep straight through but I know it isn't a good sleep. When I do go AF (like tonite), I know my sleep will be fitful.
              I don't believe I will be able to moderate. I think I'm going to have to be an abstainer.
              In 10 days I will undergo my first endoscopy and colonoscopy. The GI doc knows how much I drink and when he asked me why I drink so much, I told him it's the only way I know how to relax after a long day of 2 jobs. Actually I have 3 but not on the same day.
              He told me I need to find another way to relax. I'm really scared what the results of these 2 tests will show. I have horrible ARD and I'm scared he's going to find cancer or precancer in the esophogus. He told me cutting back on the AL would solve many of my medical problems: 40 lbs overweight, HBP, ARD, and maybe even my asthma.
              I just downloaded the pdf of the book and ordered the hypnosis CDs. I've never tried hypnosis but I'm willing to give it a try. Tomorrow I will try to find L-glusomine.
              I've been reading the posts for most of the afternoon and even tho I want to run out and get a bottle of wine, I look sufficiently horrible after being in bed all day that I won't.
              So that's my story so far. Thanks for being here. Oh, out of curiousity-has anyone ever heard of the Addiction facility Passages in Malibu? I'm almost done reading his book "The Alcohol
              and Addiction Cure" and am finding it very interesting. Although I don't know how much a month of treatment costs there, I'm sure I can't afford it. I found MWO quite by accident today while googling treatment for alcohol dependency.
              Thanks for listening.
              Pam
              New Birthday: May 8, 2010

              "Because dwelling from, not upon, the space you want to inherit is the fastest way to change absolutely everything."[/i]-The Universe

              KO the Beast!!

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                #8
                Another newbie here

                :welcome: papmom3,
                Just wanted to say hello and welcome.
                Keep reading,keep posting and please let us know how you're getting along.
                J x
                :l
                It could be worse, I could be filing.
                AF since 7/7/2009

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                  #9
                  Another newbie here

                  Thanks Jackie,
                  I will!!
                  New Birthday: May 8, 2010

                  "Because dwelling from, not upon, the space you want to inherit is the fastest way to change absolutely everything."[/i]-The Universe

                  KO the Beast!!

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                    #10
                    Another newbie here

                    me again
                    Have a look in the link below to get a plan of action together.
                    https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html

                    I must get myself away to my bed it's after midnight here.

                    J x
                    :l
                    It could be worse, I could be filing.
                    AF since 7/7/2009

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                      #11
                      Another newbie here

                      thank you so much Jackie for the link. I read the first 2 pages and was blown away. I have found the right place for me and I'm not alone!! I have a lot of printing to do tomorrow!!:thanks:
                      New Birthday: May 8, 2010

                      "Because dwelling from, not upon, the space you want to inherit is the fastest way to change absolutely everything."[/i]-The Universe

                      KO the Beast!!

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                        #12
                        Another newbie here

                        Good Morning Everyone!
                        I had a fitful night's sleep as expected but at least I'm not hungover!! I read a lot of posts yesterday and some this morning. It's really amazing how much I see of myself in others and never knew it. I had all these plans today-cleaning the whole house, shopping, taking the dogs for a long walk, finishing the Addiction Cure book-and in one of the posts i read where we tend to overcompensate for not drinking by going crazy with overdoing. So, I think I will prioritize and set a goal of completing 3 tasks today. I really feel the pressure as i only have 2 full weekends a month to get things done. However, hopefully without making time for AL, I will have more time to do the errands and chores I never get around to.
                        It's going to be a beautiful day today in MA so I will take advantage of that and my highest priorty will be to take the dogs for a lovely walk. They will be so psyched and I will get my exercise in.

                        Today I will try to remember that I am in recovery, just like recovery from surgery, and be kind to myself. I know tonite will be tough but I will come back to this forum for support.

                        Have a great day everyone!!
                        New Birthday: May 8, 2010

                        "Because dwelling from, not upon, the space you want to inherit is the fastest way to change absolutely everything."[/i]-The Universe

                        KO the Beast!!

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