Question for Abstainers

[CAM2575]

Question for Abstainers

Sheri.
I do not think you understand me and while I appreciate your point of view, I found your response hurtful.
My connection with Roberta was about suddenly not feeling alone. Not about having a "cookie cutter" drinking pattern.
I don't think Roberta owes me anything. I just simply wanted the truth.
With that said, I will find my own truth.

[CAM2575]

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No attack. just expressing my feelings at the moment, which I thought was ok here.
Since it is not, I will move on.
Thanks to all who listened objectively and I wish you all the best!

[mama bear]

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Hang in there Cam and do what works for you....I have had to finally accept the "old" me is gone and that makes me sad, but I am in the process of recreating a new and better me.....
Good luck to you

[KateH1]

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As with many others, I began my journey here at MWO seeking to "moderate" my drinking. I neither wanted to stop drinking, nor did I believe that it was possible for me to abstain. Through reading the MWO book, I began to sort out my own thoughts. I identified with much of the story in the book. But, I decided to try the supplements and the Kudzu and go for 30 days as recomended in the book. At 28 days, I felt great and I decided that at this point, it was probably safe to moderate. I was wrong! That experience proved to me that I cannot moderate, nor do I really want to attempt to continue to drink. So I stopped drinking for good. That is over 2 years ago now and I could not be happier! I understand exactly what Sherrie was saying. I also believe that I owe my sobriety and finding my way out to this website and the book. Perhaps one day, Roberta Jewel will write another book, in regards to her continuing journey, perhaps not. After all, MWO was never written as a "Cure", it was written as one woman's experience up to that point, given the experience she had at that time. I gratefully accept it as just that.

Kate

[Funny Girl]

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Agreed Kate - I started thinking just what you did - tomorrow is day 28 for me & lately I've been thinking " boy would it be nice to have a drink", but then I think - most likely not a good idea. And - I owe that thought to most of my own self reflection combined with many of my conversations with the wonderful people here like you. I think that if you spend some time out here Cam, you may come to feel a bit differently soon . . . give the program a bit of a chance & try not to feel as if you've been 'wronged' somehow. I think you'll find support and you'll begin to understand that this is simply a starting place for your own self discovery.

[addictionfree]

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I cam im new to this sight just reading a few things came across your post hope im doing this right first time ive ever been on one of these sights. in my experience over the years total abstinece is the only way if you are a problem drinker i dont say alcoholic only you can decide i had my last drink 15 yrs a go today i call my self a recovered alcoholic i live in england evry body i used to drink with are all dead now it took me along time to addmit to myself i was an alcoholic i went to my first aa meeting when i was 22 but didnt stay im 52 now things got a lot worse i did float around aa for a time after that but its a long story i know in my early days i used to stop and start few weeks here and there but allways ended up back in the gutter and hurting a lot of people cannot say much about meddication because i never used eny good luck take it easy you can do it

[gyco]

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hi cam,again,you said you wanted to learn,one of the biggest things with alchohol abusers,not neceesarily alchoholics, is ,we,i , dont take critisism lightly,the socalled gene you speak of ,made that possible,like anything we do,it will be a struggle,another thing is our opinions are just that, Ours,you have a desire to learn,wht quit now,i for one enjoyed your thread,i for one,who has been doing this quitting for ever,or modding thing,for a long time,a lot of us,i beleive will admit,we havent told the hole truths,as addictive minded people,our inner selves beleive we are protecting the persons around us,but as we all lern,weve hurt them with a lie,i cant speak for ms jewel or others,being a al abuser for years, the many times ive tried to mod it always failed,always fell back to the old habits,till now,over the last 3 years,ive tried the calender method,as i call it,1st years was 67 days,2nd wa 227 and 3rd was 257,this year ive had 81 days,you seem like you want to mod,sometimes over time ,learning this site we find the thread that suits us,it is not easy to mod,it is not normal to drink,ok ive talked to much,but there is a site for modding other then mwo,ive researched it with the help of this site,if not for this site i wouldnt of found it,its called Moderation Management,looks promising,if you want to enter the forum from what ive read it is a one time cost of ,under 60 dollars,there are many resouces available,all we can do is suggest,wish you well gyco

[Guitarista]

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CAM2575;825937 wrote: Thanks Funnygirl, I think she did acknowledge it somewhat in her book, but she needs to come out and say "THIS DID NOT WORK FOR ME" on her website (if that is indeed the case). I literally bought into her program because she was just like me. Her level of drinking, her lifestyle, her family life...everything!
I know that ultimately we are diffferent people, and I have to deal with this on my own, and I plan to do just that.
I find comfort in people like you, and mama bear and all of the others who have posted in this forum. I am still thinking about moderating, but now I am also considering a life without AL. That makes me sad. I DID NOT WANT to do that! I just want to be the regular girl I once was!!! The girl who could not stand the taste of booze and use to pretend to get more while nursing the same beer all night! Roberta made me feel like I could be that girl again....I NEED to be that girl again....

The truth can be difficult when we discover it sometimes Cam, especially when we know it ourselves. Hope you find our own way out sooner rather than later. Give the booze up for a year. If you can't conceive that, you've got a problem. In which case, ditch the sauce and get living again.

Best wishes.