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[Nailz]

Hello,

First post, so please be gentle...

I have always struggled with Alcohol, since I was 18, I used it to make me relax and switch off, few cans of beer a night, a bottle of wine maybe. But it was EVERY night,for about 6 years, I kept trying to remember when I had last been without drink and it was pointless trying to remember because it had been years.

I then went to Iraq with the airforce, which meant I had to go tee total for 4 months straight, it was great and when I got back I stayed sober for abut 18 months only drinking socially once or twice a month, completley under control.

Now its getting back to they way I used to be, drinking every night, maybe one night off a fortnight. I dont want it to be this way, but cant find the motivation to overcome the craving.

I hope you can all help me by sharing your sotries and victories and hope that I can take inspiration from this and stop my own habit from getting as bad as it used to be.

Yours, in desperation

Nailz

[JackieClaire]

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:welcome: Nailz,

Just wanted to pop by and say hello from another UKer. Not going to overload you with advice at the moment, just keep posting, keep reading and let us get to know more about you.

Have a look in the tool box link, masses of info and advice on how to get a plan together.

https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html

If you pop your head into the Army thread, we are not ex service people but just an Army that has gathered together in our fight against alcohol.

Glad to you're here.

J x
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[Judestir]

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Hey Nailz

I am new here too. Have you read the book My Way Out and The Easy Way to Stop Drinking. I have found them both very helpful and I plan on reffering back to them both on my journey to sobriety.

You can do this!! Keep reading, keep posting, keep learning....keep moving forward )))) From one Newbie to another!!

[Nailz]

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Thanks guys, I feel like I really let myself down last night. Was going to have an AF day but had a huge row with my partner and ended up having a beer then a double jack, then another, then another... went to bed feeling ashamed of myself as I am sure the argument started because of how irritable I am with a hangover........

Dont really know why I share this with you guys but just feel that if I dont share it somewhere I am denying it to myself?

[JackieClaire]

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Aww Nailz,
You can share anything here. Do you know you've just recognized one of your triggers there.

It's one of the H.A.L.T. rules to look out for.

Hungry. Angry. Lonely. Tired

Have another go today,hun

[Judestir]

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Todays another day Nailz....go for it and see how it feels.
Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired, that makes alot of sense, thanks for sharing Jackie
H.A.L.T.

[Chillgirl]

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Nailz - One of the biggest hurdles in quitting drinking is the denial we allow ourselves and what is really encouraging about your post is the fact that you already acknowledge that your irritability was due to you being hungover. This is really worth its weight and when we face up to how much its affecting every aspect of our lives it makes us more determined to claim back control of our own lives.

I found that just by posting my feelings made me face reality for the 1st time so I hope you stick around and get all the support you can.

[Kimberley]

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Just popping by to say hi Nailz - also in the UK. The first step to changing is being aware of the problem am having a desire to do something about it, so you've already done that.

Next you have to try to make a plan. Are you aiming for moderate drinking? Do you think you can achieve this? etc.

Anyway you've found a great support in this site and I wish you luck.
K x

[Nailz]

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Thank you all for your encouraging responses, I think that this instance was a pivot point for me.

I had an AF free Friday, a couple of cans Saturday, nothing Sunday, Monday, Yesterday and plan to not drink today, I feel a lot more positive and find that I am not thinking about alcohol so much, although I still do. I would like to think I could be an occasional drinker but I need to recognise the signs that its becoming excessive. I only really want to drink on weekends with friends, not every night alone!

H.A.L.T I will remember that, thank you!

[BlondeAFAmbition]

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Greetings from across the pond Nailz...I am also new on MWO and just joined today in fact. I am on day 5 of not drinking and I'm feeling great. I am glad to know about the H.A.L.T. tool as well, as for me, hunger is the first trigger for wanting a drink! Strength comes in numbers and I feel that the support from all of the wonderful members on this site is going to be a tremendous help for both of us just starting out. Take one day at a time.

[Nailz]

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Hi all, had a week AF but last few days havent been so good, whole bottle of red las night, drank till i vomited on Monday night...

Last few days have been thinking of drinking from like 4.30 every night and have been trying to stop myself but havent succeded.

Pretty ashamed of myself and starting to worry that maybe I cant be a moderate drinker...

[Judestir]

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Hi Nailz

Firstly, I would like to say that you are not alone in your struggles. We all drink to excess one way or another or we would not be here looking for a way out.

From what I have read on here, most believe you have to go at least a month AF before you can even start to think about moderation. And again, from what I have read, most are not successful their first time around. So pick yourself up, give yourself a hug, know that you are worth it, set a goal, figure out a plan to get to that goal and just do it. If you fail, get up again and start all over. I believe this is how we learn. So hugs to you Nails, you can do this!!!!!!!!!!! Remember, don't beat yourself up, its a waste of time.

[Nailz]

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Thanks for your help, AF free yesterday, but it was hard work. I have asked my partner to help me ensure i dont drink this week but fully understand the responsibility lies with ME alone.

Drank too much Sat again, but now need to set my sights on none for this week.

[Nailz]

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I hate to say it, but for some reason it has got worse, I had 2 AF days in the last week but when I have drank I have drank nearly 2 bottles of wine each night...

What the hell am I doing why cant I control this....

[spacebebe01]

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Hi Naliz, I'm also in UK, ust wanted to jump in and say hello, I think making a plan is definately the best thing I've done. Somehow it clears my head to know what it is I want to do for myself. Weather you want to be alcohol free or to moderate alcohol is entirely up to you, you know your capabilities.
For me hunger is a real and dangerous trigger for wanting a drink, also anger, I try to use the word STOP when I get wound up, just take a minute or so to calm down and think why I'm allowing myself to get angry or upset, because it is totally down to me, no one else can make me feel bad for any length of time and no one else can make me drink.
Take things slowly its not a race,
Best wishes
Trish