Another Newbie

[Flossie]

Another Newbie

Hi Jude,

Just popping by to say Hello.

So pleased you are doing well, this is my 2nd day in and I am doing well.

I look forward to reading about your journey here on MWO.

Thankyou for all you have done

Love Floss x

[Judestir]

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Hey Flos

Yeah you jumped on board. Day 3 here you come. As you know it just gets easier and easier.....hmmm with a few burps along the way, but still easier. Day three here you come!!

[Judestir]

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Why is it when I read Rudy...I see Ruby:H. Sorry about that Rudy. Maybe it is a good omen though and I have some gems coming my way in the near future

Well things are going pretty good for me. I am still having my ups and downs but have not lost my determination.

My husband and I have been invited to dinner and wine tasting this Friday. Ummmm, is there something about wine tasting that is not going to work for me right now??? Hmmm should I maybe say no this time.?? Hahah Well I could probably go and just eat the amazing food (menu looks great), but the whole idea of the evening is to pair the wine with the food, so I think NO would be a good answer for now. Besides my hubby just left today on a business trip and will be back Friday. The last thing he probably will want to do when he gets home is go out and be sociable. NO, NO ,NO Thank you, but NO!!

Rudy/Ruby (I'm sure you know who you are) I am much like you, alone time is trigger time. And I have kind of been dreading my husband leaving on business. I know I will not drink, but I have feeling I will miss MY wine more tonight. It keeps me company and it keeps me content. I guess I am still, at times, in mourning.

I think that if the weight were falling off me I might be in a better mind set. My body just seems to like to hold on tight to those extra pounds. My weigh in this morning had me down 3 pounds in one month (it was five the other day, but the scale moved in the wrong direction once again) Very frustrating indeed!!!!!!!! I guess slow, but steady wins the race. But I keep thinking that my body will wake up one day and see all the work I am doing to shed these 35 pounds and say......... HEY YOU DESERVE IT!

Tomorrow will be day 30 for me! How do I feel about that?? Well I guess I am proud of myself for deciding to do somthing and then just doing it. But I am also a bit apprehensive. I am learning so much from my reading and from this forum, that I am finding myself questioning all sort of things reagarding liquor, and my relationship with it. And at this point, I have to say, I DON'T KNOW! :nutso: I am still on the fence. Lucky for me I have 2 more months to decide. So I will keep reading and keep thinking, and see where it leads me.

Snowy and cold here today. I think I will book a facial to celebrate my one month of sobriety (tomorrow). Something to be proud of!!:wd:

[Judestir]

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Well I made it through my first evening home alone. It was a very weird feeling being here by myself without having wine to tuck me in at night . I have found my sleep patterns have changed a bit. I am finding I am tired much earlier. I am falling asleep on the couch around 10:30 where as before I would have just finished off my last glass of wine and would maybe have had a glass of water or a cup of tea before retirering. I am sleeping throught the night YEaH!!!! My body seems to need about 8 hours sleep because I find I am waking up before 7am and am ready to get up . I really doooooo love not waking up a 2 am with worry and wondering if I will be able to get back to sleep.

[Judestir]

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My Dad just phoned with bad news. My aunt is dying of lung cancer. What a terrible person I am...one of my first thoughts was, " life is so short, why am I not having wine tonight? "

We are not that close of a family, even less so now that we are older, but as youngsters we saw our Aunts and Uncles, cousins etc.every week during the summer at the lake.

So maybe saddness is a trigger for me. I won't be drinking tonight, but it will be something to look for in the future.

[Judestir]

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Today is the half way point for me. I have officially gone 6 weeks AF.

Last week I went back to the doctors for my 6 week check and my liver is fine so he wrote me the perscription for the next 6 weeks. I feel very strong and there is not a doubt in my mind that I will get through the next weeks AF. I feel strong even knowing that my mom is coming for a 2 week visit (on her way home from Mexico) and she will have a glass of wine in hand every day. I can still do this!

I had a friend BBM me the other day and ask if I would come to stay with here while both our husbands were out of town. Her second questions was "will you be over all this no wine drinking thing of yours by then?" I said yes. And it is true, I will be past my 12 week mark, but I am still no sure how I feel about drinking. Something in my head keeps telling me that that first drink will just ruin my AF runnnn . There is part of me that wants to give modding a go, and another part that just say, live your life without it. It is all very confusing.

I have now lost 10 pounds in 6 weeks of being AF. :applaud: Yes I am clapping for myself and it not a first and won't be a last. But I have to say that 5 of those pounds came off in the past week since I have had a very bad cold. So I think some of them are phantom pounds, that may creep back on once my appetite comes back. 10 pounds is certainly encouraging though!

If your reading this, give yourself a hug today and a pat on the back and when you are out and about smile at someone you don't know...just because it feels good.

Judestir

[sunshinetoday]

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Hey Judester,

I love your thread. How did the end of the 12 weeks turn out for you? I am hoping I can go that long and longer.

Sunshineday

[Next, please]

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Me, too.

Would love an update Judestir!

[Judestir]

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Hello

Woke up sad this morning. Had 3 rum and cokes, one bottle of wine and a shot of Grand Marnier last night....felt fine this morning when I got out of bed at 6:30 (although sad). I am not the best I can be.

These days I am the last woman/person standing at any get together and just want to party on. I amaze myself with what I can consume and continue on. How and why does my body put up with it?

I have been blessed with so much! I have a wonderful husband, two amazing healthy happy sons, a beautiful home, a job that I love, and very good friends..........why ohhhh why do I drink the way I do. I think I really need to answer this question to be a successful non drinker.

I have picked a tough day/week to start my no alcohol journey. My husband left this morning on a business trip for a week (alone time is a trigger), it is Woman's Open at the golf course (lots of drinking) and tomorrow is Mother's day. My kids are on the other side of the country and I miss them and the rest of my family and friends so much.

My plan for the day is :

Meditate

Clean house

Golf ( I can not drink because I am driving) Good my husband is away because he would have picked me up.

At home I will come back on here and read. I will also dig out my books and start to read again.

Make a plan!!!!!!!!!!!!

Curl up on the couch with a cup of tea.

Cheers to day one........once again!

Be back this evening!

[Judestir]

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Well day one went just fine. I made it through golf and dinner with only missing my glass of wine....no biggy! I got home late, well after witching hour, so drinking at home was not an issue. Besides, there is no wine in the house.

Everyone of course asked my why I was not drinking and I just answered that I would not have a drink until I had lost 30 pounds. I actually have 50 to lose ...but one step at a time.
And when told that I could just have 1, my answere was , I am not good at 1.....now that's the truth!

So on my last try at this my derailment came when my Mom came for a visit. She drinks daily and has for as long as I remember. She is rarely drunk and uses alcohol more like anxiety medicine. I think in her day many women were prescribe drugs like Valium and her drug of choice was wine. Anywho......I do get some of my habits from her. Anytime i was in her presence she would put a glass of wine in front of me......you need this. I have been well trained. I am 51 years old and it just amazes me how this old training can hold on. I am a big girl....not blaming anything on my Mom (especially today) , just trying to understand better why I do the things I do.

Have a great Mothers Day everyone! :h

[NoSugar]

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Hi, Judester

You're not a complete newbie but we would love to have you join us in the Newbies Nest!

There are a couple of other people posting there lately who are giving this whole thing another try.

Hope to see you there!

:h NS

[Judestir]

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Hahahaha, I feel like a complete Newbie! Thanks for the invite NoSugar!

The evening of day three has been the hardest yet. I'm not feeling physical withdrawals, but for certain mental withdrawal. My booze brain certainly is doing its best to convince me to buy some wine.........and "heck if you are worried about the wine, just have a vodka with fresh squeezed OJ instead, OJ is good for you" Rubbish, I say rubbish!!

Time to pull up a couch, snuggle with a blankie and what some TV

Later Gators

[kuya]

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Judestir;1505229 wrote: Hahahaha, I feel like a complete Newbie! Thanks for the invite NoSugar!

The evening of day three has been the hardest yet. I'm not feeling physical withdrawals, but for certain mental withdrawal. My booze brain certainly is doing its best to convince me to buy some wine.........and "heck if you are worried about the wine, just have a vodka with fresh squeezed OJ instead, OJ is good for you" Rubbish, I say rubbish!!

Time to pull up a couch, snuggle with a blankie and what some TV

Later Gators

:H:H

I drank LOADS of healthy OJ too, just made me a fatter drunk with good vitamin C levels ! :H:H

[Judestir]

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Hahaha love it Kuya!

Day four almost done. I am going to try to get out on the golf course more after work, I have no problem not drinking there. I came right home after my nine holes this evening because I knew everyone would be enjoying a glass of wine. I still had a good time!