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    An Abusive partner

    My abusive partner is ( AL ). This is how I am looking at my situation. I have been in this relationship on and of for the last 20 years. He has abused me physically,mentally, and spiritually. We have broken up countless times only to get back together and end up on the same destructive path. He has made me want to give up all my friends and become his only. He is so jealous and possessive.

    If I spend a whole day with him he makes me feel sad, guilty, ashamed, remorse, sick, crazy in the head, panic attacks, useless he takes away everything that I thought I was. He even got me to believe that I could not go anywhere or do anything without him, picnic, lunch, going out for dinner, having a friend over, going to a party, cooking in the kitchen, reading a book, gardening, the only place he not control me was at work, but I would go to work feeling sooo sick.

    So six days ago he nearly took the one thing that I love away from me and so I have ended this abusive relationship for the last time.

    I know deep down in my being that all I have to do is ring him and he will be back like that!!! In a split of a second.

    I love him. I love the feeling he gives to me when I think he is being nice. But I know if I call him this will be the last time for me no more second chances for this relationship. He will take everything away from me, my home, my job, my 3 dogs, my sanity my life. It would be a long slow death. But I am fighting with all my soul and I know this time around he is not coming back into my life ever ever again.

    They say time is the healer and I know with each passing day it will be easier. Already into 6th day without this relationship I feel I am coming back into being me without him!
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    #2
    An Abusive partner

    Mia,

    This is an outstanding post!:goodjob: Sooo many people could relate to this abusive relationship. Please please please post this in the Newbies Nest for all to see...something this good should be shared with others.

    Congratulations on all your AF time, too!

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      #3
      An Abusive partner

      Yes, indeed, that was a GREAT post!!!!
      Living on Planet Sober since 05/02/11




      DAREDEVIL COOKIE MONSTER

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        #4
        An Abusive partner

        WONDERFUL description!
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        Never look down on a person unless you are offering them a hand up.
        awprint: RUBY Imagine yourself doing What you love and loving What you do, Being happy From the inside Out, experiencing your Dreams wide awake, Being creative, being Unique, being you - changing things to the way YOU know they can BE - Living the Life you Always imagined.awprint:

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          #5
          An Abusive partner

          Thanks Rusty It just fits the way I feel. I would love to post this to the Newbe Nest even if it just helps one person!! I would post it a millon times!!! But I cannot even find the newbe Nest. Could you post me back and tell me how I do it.
          Plus how do I put a photo of one of my dogs near my name like everyone has a picture? x

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            #6
            An Abusive partner

            Hi Mia,

            The best place to post is under the General Discussion Forum....so you'll want to click on General Discussion and then scroll down to the bottom of the page on the left hand side. You will see New Thread. Click on that and name the thread and off you go. I wish I knew how to tell you how to insert a picture of your dog but once you post that fabulous post, at the bottom of it, just ask how you insert the pic of your dog.....as I would love to know how to do that, too. Someone will respond.

            The Newbies Nest is another Forum...and all forums are listed on the right hand side of the screen, and you could just post in there like you did in the My Story Forum. Why don't you post a little bit more about your story in the My Story section so we can get to know you?

            I printed your post out last night because it is so appropriate for ANY forum here! Thank you so much!

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              #7
              An Abusive partner

              Thanks Rusty! It is 8.30pm here and it is so nice to be sober!! Normally I have drunk a bottle of wine by now if not more!! Going into my 7th day tomorrow. x

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                #8
                An Abusive partner

                Mia, that is an awesome post. I can relate to every word and I know many people here will feel the same. I hope you were able to figure out how to post it in a really visible spot. If not, lots of people including me will be happy to help.

                DG
                Sobriety Date = 5/22/08
                Nicotine Free Date = 2/27/07

                One day at a time.

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                  #9
                  An Abusive partner

                  Hi DG. I just posted it in the general discussion. Wow it is so good to be sober at this time of night normally I would be in bed now having drunk a bottle of wine if not more. 10.00pm and I am still wide awake!!! Wow. Im going into my 7th day tomorrow. xxxx

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                    #10
                    An Abusive partner

                    Mia, fellow wine drinker here. What has been your strategy for success? Supplements, Hypno-tapes, etc? Please let me know.

                    Tips
                    Tipplerette

                    I do this for my children, my grandchildren, my health, my peace of mind, and mostly for the opportunity to learn to live with my true, unfiltered, clear-headed, vulnerable self.

                    "If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading."
                    ? Lao-Tzu

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                      #11
                      An Abusive partner

                      Hi Tipp. I have just gone cold turkey and staying here on MWO. I was just so fed up with it all. Fighting with it. Join me tomorrow on a AL free day tipp. I will look forward from hearing from you.

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                        #12
                        An Abusive partner

                        I am there and cold turkey it is. L-Glut is the only supplement I will take besides my morning smoothie routine which includes all-one type vitamin powder. I think I have finally reached the point where enough is enough. I have been a member of this forum for a few years now. I come here almost every day and feel it's the best thing that's happened to me in my AF journey. Now it's up to me to succeed.

                        We can do it together!!
                        Tipplerette

                        I do this for my children, my grandchildren, my health, my peace of mind, and mostly for the opportunity to learn to live with my true, unfiltered, clear-headed, vulnerable self.

                        "If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading."
                        ? Lao-Tzu

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                          #13
                          An Abusive partner

                          This is amazing. I read it for the first time just now, and I missed the bracketed (AL) and read it through thinking you were talking about a person, then read it again and realized my mistake. REALLY a useful interpretation and a great explanation for people just starting out. If we could realize that AL is like an abusive partner, it would make quitting that relationship so much easier for some of us. Very inspiring, well done.

                          kaslo
                          Kaslo

                          Stopped the madness: February 14, 2011
                          Status: Happy:h

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                            #14
                            An Abusive partner

                            brilliant post, thats a really good way of looking at it, hope you are doing well, my thoughts are with you,
                            if you always do what you have always done you will always get what you have always got!

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