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    It's again the first day of my attempt to get sober. After a bottle and a half of wine last night I woke up feeling like cr*p. So on days like today, I swear that it is all over for me. I've marked my calendar since January. Result:

    11 days AF in Jan. -- longest streak 5 days in a row
    6 days AF in Feb., longest 3 in a row
    3 days AF in March, 2 in a row
    2 days AF so far in April in a row

    I take Baclofen but never got to the "switch". It does help with my anxiety but now I am dependent on it and not AF. I've taken it for two years. Right now am at 60mg a day because it hasn't turned me into a non-drinker.

    In the past I was able to get and stay sober for about a year and a half after treatment by Rhonda Lenair. A health crisis in the family started me drinking again then. And a year ago I quit for 6 months but stopped for a margarita and then started in again.

    AA does not work for me. It makes me want to drink even more. I've tried a few times, different meetings... even Rhonda said it didn't work for me.

    I'm taking MWO supplements.

    I know I'm majorly depressed at the moment. I live alone and my family relationships are not good. They weren't good before I became a drinker, but I know drinking hasn't helped either.

    It just seems I have tried everything and I can't stay sober. Sometimes its the cravings, sometimes anxiety, sometimes a crisis in my life and whatever gets it going it just then turns into the same old habit.

    I looked at the Sobrex web site. It's expensive. So is drinking. But at least I only buy two bottles at a time.

    I keep hoping there is some cure. I know it is biochemical thing in the brain.

    If you read this, I know it is not very encouraging. Just trying to be honest and convey that I am at the end of my rope... again. If I had the money or insurance I would check into a 90 day rehab or maybe even 30. I feel that if I could just stop for that long, I could maybe this time remember that I can never drink. I can never be a social drinker. Even with Baclofen. One drink and I'm right back at it every time.

    #2
    Tried so many tmes....

    :welcome: I wanted to acknowledge your post. I am running off to an appointment for 1pm here.

    Someone will be by shortly to give you some support for what you had said. There is a wealth of information to help you get started here in the forums. I hope while I am gone someone could post some short cuts to a couple of very helpful threads for you.

    Again, welcome!!! :l

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      #3
      Tried so many tmes....

      (((Lostlady)))

      Welcome. There are a very lot of supportive people here. Some of us have gone off and on the wagon many times. Some have been sober for many years and still come here because of the supportive nature of our group. You will find a lot of real people from all walks of life here. Nothing you have experienced, felt, wished, done, etc, someone or one(s) haven't. When you feel like drinking or if you are drinking come to chat. You may have to wait a while but hang out there, someone will be along. This is a place where you will be accepted. Check out the tool box. Check out other people's stories. Check out the humor. There is something for everyone. And remember, the one thing you keep having to do, is keep trying. As long as you keep trying, there is ALWAYS HOPE.

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        #4
        Tried so many tmes....

        I just read your post and I can relate to how your feeling... You are trying so hard and yet nothing seems to work. But don't give up. I am trying to moderate and gain control over my drinking too. It may be that i need to ditch it altogether! I have really good days and really lousy days. Do you have a good friend you can get some support from if not your family? There are a lot of people here who will buoy you up. There is a lot of experience on this forum.

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          #5
          Tried so many tmes....

          Lost Lady.......You have'nt lost anything until you have given up ! Then truly you are lost ! Keep fighting.....This Alcohol fight is a war, not a few battles ! You may lose a few battles....but what you want is to when the war ! It takes many battles sometimes to win a war ! Hang in their ! Tony
          ?Be who you are and say what you feel because
          those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.?
          Dr. Seuss

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            #6
            Tried so many tmes....

            Dear Lost Lady :welcome:

            Please join us. We are a group of caring and supportive people who have walked the walk. For newcomers, it's usually recommended that the Newbie's Nest is a good start. Also read The Tool Box which is a culmination of good advice. I think it's on Page 2 of General Discussion. It's not easy when you live alone because no one is around to see it, but it also isolates us. Your depression will improve if you can thread more days together. Post often and read and you will soon feel like one of the MWO family.
            Enlightened by MWO

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              #7
              Tried so many tmes....

              Thank you for the welcome. I did manage to make it through yesterday AF, but that's not hard when you feel so cr*ppy from the night before. I had some bottles in the house and even though they were expensive wines, I poured them down the sink.

              My love affair with wine started when I lived in France. We would often over-indulge but it was never a habit or something I couldn't do without. My real problems started when I started a career; I have essential tremor and it does respond to alcohol. So it became my medication for job interviews, and later for stress on the job. But I loved working. The ET didn't respond to the other usual drugs so it was like a miracle to me to be able to take a swig and have it go away for awhile.

              I'd say it's been off and on for two decades now with periods where I was just a moderate drinker to of late when it's been steady on every night.

              It doesn't even taste good any more unless I have been off it for awhile. It tastes like... well, grain alcohol or something. So why do I do it? Because at times it feels like my only escape, my only friend.

              I've tried moderation but it just escalates back up.

              So, yes, thank you for welcoming me into the community. I have moved so much that I don't have any IRL support system. As soon as I move again in July I am going to work on that. I might try a noon time AA meeting, but the evening ones just intensify the craving. It's possible that after I was sober for awhile that might not be the case.

              I'll keep trying... I hope... and keep you posted.

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                #8
                Tried so many tmes....

                Hi lost
                I was just reading your post and wondering how you are doing?

                AA does not work for me either and yes does make me want to drnk more. I have been using topamax and the supps from the mwo site. They help more than anything I ever tried.
                Anyway, it's late and I just wanted to see how you were. I am day five but feel not so hot...tomorrow will be better
                On My Own Way Out Since May 20, 2012
                *If you think poorly of yourself, you can fail with a clear conscience.
                https://www.mywayout.org/community/f11/tool-box-27556.html tool box
                https://www.mywayout.org/community/f19/newbies-nest-30074.html newbie nest

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                  #9
                  Tried so many tmes....

                  I hope you are still around Lost lady....you are having a real tough time.
                  I feel for you,I was just like that...off ...on..Meds,Re hab....Back on it again...on and on.
                  Then I seen the ACA Laundry list....I really never needed to drink again....I had discovered
                  why I drank and Druged.....Most People are in denial with the Laundry List....but if you can
                  get it you have it.

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