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    #31
    As promised: my story

    Another month went by, and I have to say, a rather easy one when it came to alcohol (or lack of ). Yesterday was 300 days - yeah, I'm still counting. It's a good feeling when you suddenly notice you haven't thought about a drink for 3 or more days.

    One of the truly fun things in rehab was... cooking. After the detox period, you end up in a group of about 10 to 12 people with whom you will spend the rest of your time. Of course, every week, some leave, and some new people are added.

    Every week, each member of the group gets a specific task, like cleaning, making notes, washing up and/or cooking. Three days a week the group is making their own meal, which means you have to make a starter, main dish, and dessert for 10 or more people.

    There were rules however, and the first one was the most astonishing: you are only allowed to spend... $2 per person per day.

    Yes, you read that right: $2. That is not a lot of money for a three course meal, and almost sounded impossible. Not only that: you were not allowed to use tinned food (an exception was made for tomato pulp), or pre-cooked food (like pudding for dessert): it had to be fresh, and it had to be handmade as much as reasonably possible.

    I never made dinner for such a large group before, and there's quite a bit of work planning, making up the menu (allergies! religious rules!), shopping, calculating, keeping the receipts (no cheating!), cleaning, preparing... for $2 per person. For 12 to 14 people, including one or two staff.

    The crazy thing is that it is easily possible to make excellent meals for that money, so good that the staff was always glad to eat with us. Most of the time we had spare money (a couple of dollars), which was honestly mind-blowing! (of course, you didn't need any wine with the food ). We had the use of our own group kitchen, fully equipped, with things like spices, butter, milk etc. provided for us. (so that didn't go into the $2 budget)

    So, what's that got to do with rehab? Well, it's obviously only a small part of the tasks/lessons/sessions, but a good way to interact with the people your group, exchange tips & tricks, and prepare for affordable & healthier eating habits.

    2 dollars. Try it!

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      #32
      As promised: my story

      I've recently set myself a challenge to start using more "cheap" vegetables that I don't typically use to reduce my grocery bill. Kale, turnip greens, etc, are only 99c a pound! I need to start using them more.

      Glad you're still doing well!
      Well it's all right now. I've learned my lesson well. You see you can't please everyone, so you've got to please yourself.

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        #33
        As promised: my story

        Thanks :thanks:

        Well, still at it, and oddly enough, your comment about the really cheap vegetables is playing a big part in my current diet - more than I thought when I posted my last comment.

        See... as much as I felt better emotionally being sober for this long, as bad my body started to feel. I didn't mention it, mostly because it didn't make sense. My neuropathy that looked like it was on the mend after I quit drinking started to feel worse again. Much worse. In fact, it was never as bad.

        On top of that, I encountered all kinds of ailments like gout (was never a problem) and arthritis (that was a first as well). Just standing up from a chair had become a painful nightmare. As much as my liver showed to be totally healed, my cholesterol suddenly went through the roof. I tried all kinds of supplements (B12, B1, D3, alpha lipoic acid, and about 10 others), but they didn't seem to really make me better.

        Man, that sucked. You think you did the right thing by kicking the drink, and you are rewarded with a body that feels like the wheels are coming off. This isn't supposed to happen!

        Long story short: I slowly realized I had switched poison. Never one to pay much attention to food scares (yawn), I noticed that there was one thing that can have the same effect as alcohol, and that's... the non fermented variety of it.

        Sugar. Yes, I had stopped drinking my 1.5 bottles of whisky a day (with a bit of cola added, my poison of choice), but... I had replaced it with litres of full sugar soda, and tonnes of sweets. Poor liver...

        Long story short: since about a month or so, I stopped this new madness, and switched to water and more sensible food. Fruit instead of sweets. Sounds boring, I know, but it turned around my ailments almost instantly. I also started eating a lot of fiber, and found out why this is a very good thing to do.

        For the first time since June 13 last year, I'm really starting to feel optimistic about my chances of maintaining a sober & healthy life style.

        In 31 days, I will have been sober for a year. On that day, I will stop smoking, to celebrate it. I no longer feel that trying to kick this other habit might endanger my sobriety.

        Bring it on.

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          #34
          As promised: my story

          Not much to report, except that it's 1 year today.

          It's starting to feel like it's the best decision I ever took. I feel I have my life back.

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            #35
            As promised: my story

            Hi All
            Congrats chief!!! It is the biggest and most important decision that we have to make in our lives. We can't see it at the time but the further away from al we get the better our lives become in so many ways.
            So glad to see another member break away. It was hard work on your part congrats for doing what ever was necessary for your recovery.



            Stay Healthy and Keep Fighting
            AF. 5-16-08
            Stay Healthy and Keep Fighting
            AF 5-16-08

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              #36
              As promised: my story

              Thanks. Yeah, it was quite a bit of work... almost impossible to catch in words. And I know that you never can say never, but going back to where I was a year ago is just not an option. I'm concentrating on living healthier, enjoying my life... Too bad I can't enjoy the occasional glass, so what... that's nothing (from where I'm standing now) compared to all the benefits.

              I'm finally recovering from my peripheral neuropathy - a direct result of alcohol abuse - and living without the constant excruciating pain is just awesome. To endanger that recovery by drinking again is simply unthinkable.

              Mind you, I'm still not complacent. One year is nice, really nice, but I still read here every day, as a reminder that I should never become complacent.

              Today, however, I feel like a million dollars.

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                #37
                As promised: my story

                Chief Bromden;1519082 wrote: Not much to report, except that it's 1 year today.

                It's starting to feel like it's the best decision I ever took. I feel I have my life back.
                Congratulations Chief

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                  #38
                  As promised: my story

                  sweetpea29;1519246 wrote: Congratulations Chief
                  Ta!.

                  Second year just started.

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                    #39
                    As promised: my story

                    Congrats on your one year achievement. You are an encouragement to those of us in the early stages of recovery. Thank you for telling your story.
                    Free at Last
                    "What you seek is seeking you." -- Rumi

                    Highly recommend this video
                    http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

                    July 19, 2013 -- the beginning of being Free at Last

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                      #40
                      As promised: my story

                      Hi Chief and Thanks

                      Hi Chief. Just wanted to thank you again for your post on REALLY. This is exactly the type information that can help others. I read on one of your posts that you are paying it forward ..and I agree... You are paying it forward. I am not new at attempted recoveries but I am new at enjoying almost 80+ days alcohol free and near anxiety free. (BAC Created this for me). I am so glad to read about your one year progress -how stories like yours help so many of us newbies. Anyway, again, I thank you.

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                        #41
                        As promised: my story

                        free at last;1519538 wrote: Congrats on your one year achievement. You are an encouragement to those of us in the early stages of recovery. Thank you for telling your story.
                        Thank you.

                        spiritwolf333;1519637 wrote:
                        Hi Chief. Just wanted to thank you again for your post on REALLY. This is exactly the type information that can help others. I read on one of your posts that you are paying it forward ..and I agree... You are paying it forward. I am not new at attempted recoveries but I am new at enjoying almost 80+ days alcohol free and near anxiety free. (BAC Created this for me). I am so glad to read about your one year progress -how stories like yours help so many of us newbies. Anyway, again, I thank you.
                        Anxiety free is great. (and so is 80 days) Anxiety is a killer. I do read the baclofen threads BTW. I may have written before that baclofen was my "plan B". Oddly enough, knowing that I had such a thing as a backup plan made it easier to do it without.

                        Also, in rehab, the caretakers knew about baclofen, and thought it could be promising. They were not at a point that they were actually considering to use it for their own patients, but somehow it made them seem more knowledgeable.

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                          #42
                          As promised: my story

                          Day 400 today, and feeling great. That's it!

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                            #43
                            As promised: my story

                            Fantastic Chief! Congratulations on 400 days and here's to the next 400 and beyond

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                              #44
                              As promised: my story

                              Thanks blondie! Next 400 it is. The beyond however will have to wait, 400 steps at a time eh.

                              On a more serious note; it's baffling how many people I meet that have an alcohol problem. I don't know if that's because I'm tuned into the problem now, or because I freely talk about my "adventures", but it is staggering. There's a lot of suffering out there, and I do feel the urge to lend a hand, but it's not an easy fix (I should know...).

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                                #45
                                As promised: my story

                                A quick monthly update: still doing fine, I'm really at peace with being sober, and since changing my diet I have lost 27 kg in 4 months. There's a lot more to it than just the weight though (it wasn't even the primary goal...): I (finally) feel healthier and more energetic than I did in the last 30 years, the neuropathy pains have mostly gone, and I'm happy as a clam right now.

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