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[healing4me]

I have never typed a message on any site much less one like this. I am a problem drinker...drink every nite after work and start around 3pm on weekends. I drink beer mostly, use to drink wine but it made me mean and have very bad hangovers. I have tried and tried to quit drinking, with no success. Funny though, I didnt start drinking until 3 yrs ago, and as I have justified, due to the high stress of running/owning a high stress business. I beat myself up for drinking everyday...feeling guilty, ashamed...hiding it from my daughter. Others tell me I do not have a problem since I drink about 3-5 beers each evening...but I know it is a problem since I cant seem to go without it. Seems drinking occupies my mind and I get bored mentally when I try to go without. I have tried Campril, but no success there...before finding this site, I ordered "The Last Call Program." I am hoping that will help to eliminate my desire to drink...we will see. It was very expensive, but if it works, it will be well worth it. I feel life is not worth living if I cannot get over this problem. I am constantly full of fear over what I am doing to my health and family. Not to mention, I feel bad everyday due to the after effects of drinking at nite, so bad that I cannot keep up with running our business effectively. I seem to get irritated with everything that comes my way and I am always sooooo tired that I could sleep 16 hrs a day if life would let me. I feel that if I could quit drinking, my head would clear, my energy level would return, and my life would be back on track. Makes anyone with any sense wonder why I would drink and make my self feel so bad all day, but it is because I like the feeling of having a buzz in the evening and I can't seem to overcome that part of it. I will update after starting "The Last Call Program" since I feel it is my "last call."

[Nelz]

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Well, stick around here, do some reading, ask questions. This board is full of people that have been or are in your shoes at the moment.

I wont say it is an easy task, but it is doable, using one or a variety of techniques you can discover on this board. My words of wisdom: It WILL get easier with time, it may sound impossible right now, but you can do it.

Welcome aboard!


EDIT: GREAT name by the way, you will indeed do some healing with AL out of your life

[Byrdlady]

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Healing...you have landed in the perfect spot if you are sick and tired of being sick and tired! Your story is all of our stories. I'd like to encourage to come on over to the Newbie's Nest. We have people in ALL stages of his/her quit. I would suggest reading back a couple weeks to get to know us, and just jump right in. There isn't a story you could tell us that we haven't seen/heard/done....it just gets exhausting!!
If you will take your cursor over my name above (with the dot beside it) and left click, you will see a drop down...click Find all posts by Byrdlady and click that you will find the Newbies Nest, that's where I hang out most of the time. We have LOTS of success there! Down below in my signature line, you'll find a link to the Tool Box where you will find 100's of tips and coping skills to get you thru the first challenging days. I am so glad you found us. We can help!! Byrdie

[Nelz]

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Here's a shortcut to the nest

https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...est-30074.html

[LibraryGirl]

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Hi there, Healing. You sound a lot like me. I too was stuck in the habit of drinking every night, and I was so addicted to the buzz and the thought of not drinking in the evenings just depressed me as I felt like everything was so boring without it (nothing to look forward to). I thought I couldn't break the habit, but I did with the help of this site, and once I made my mind up it was surprisingly easy to put it aside. I didn't find anything that was so interesting to replace my nightly buzz, but I just carried on and felt empowered by finally being in control. Once you take the first step and go for a week without drinking, you will feel so much better. Coming here and posting and reading will go a long way to help you on the way. Welcome.:welcome:

[healing4me]

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Thank you all for your welcome and apparent confidence in me...I needed that. I cried when I read your replies. I can tell you have been where I am and have overcome. I hope I can do the same and encourage others in their walk out of this craziness.

[healing4me]

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Well today is Sunday, I drank five and a half beers yesterday evening, went to bed at 11pm, got up at 8:30am. Praying to God He will help me not to drink today...I want to feel good and in my right mind for work tomorrow. Suppose to receive "the last call program" on Tuesday. I have tried many things to quit (will power, campril, week long religious retreat, crying, sleeping, distractions, and did I mention will power?) I am really hoping this last call program will work for me. I can't figure out why this thing has such a hold on me and why in the face of losing everything I hold dear...I still cant seem to quit. I use to very close to God, reading the Bible, going to church, Christian friends...I have seperated myself from all of this since I feel so dirty and guilty. I have begged for Him to remove the desire to drink...I know people who have been delivered totally from alcohol...meaning they were fast and furiously drinking every day for years, then they called out to God and next day they were clean and had no desire to drink anymore...like BAM! Total deliverance.

I respect all of you in your plight to moderate or be AF. For me, I want total abstinance. I want to look at my 13 yr old and tell her drinking is not an option for her life (and be free myself, so as not to be a hypocrite). I want to desire my husband more than alcohol. He is so understanding...non-judgemental and supportive. He says we will make it thru this together..for better or for worse, in sickness and in health...we are married and we are one---20yrs of marriage.

There, but for the grace of God, go I...

[Nelz]

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I might as well have written you last post, Ive had the exact same thoughts about AL.

To be honest, if not for a "rock bottom" moment, I think I would still be drinking. Everytime I think about how bad I need a drink, and trust me, it still happens, I take myself back to that place, and use that as motivation not to.

I understand your AL cycle all to well. Try not to be too hard on yourself......you may slip up(we all do) but when you are truly ready.......it will happen. If that takes programs, meds, prayer, whatever it is, it will happen.

Just try to visualize that cartoon skull and crossbones on that bottle of AL. Try and convince yourself that "at that moment" you dont really need the drink. Keep fighting off those "at that moments" and pretty soon your time will really start to add up

Wishing you strength, support, and all the knowledge needed to achieve your goals.

[Alcoholic]

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Healing:

Just got this site 2 weeks ago: drank 1-2 bottles of wine per day and stumbled here through Internet search. Read some info and got excited about the possibilities. Went out and bought the supplements, contacted my doc and now have 8-9 days of alcohol free under my belt that I never thought I could have. What worked the most actually are the supplements which are readily available at any vitamin shoppe (see the med section forum).

Jump around different threads and read as much as possible. Just by being on this site also reduces the amount of time you would spend on drinking. So good luck and I hope you succeed at your goal!

[kneesrbad]

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New to me too!

This is my first time posting to a support group! Not sure how I stumbled upon this site but I obviously was very curious as I know I have a problem! I was reading 'Healing4me' and your story is very similar! I know I have the desire to drink my wine as soon as I get home from work! My hubby also enjoys his wine! And we both know we have to take care of this desire to drink wine every day! This desire to drink every night has never caused a problem at my workplace, as I have not had a sick day in over 5 years! My hubby and I are celebrating 30 years of marriage at an all-inclusive for our last 'party'! And when we get back, we are doing this together!

From what I've read already, this is the support I know will help me - I read all your inspirational stories and hope I can be one of them! :new:

[Alcoholic]

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Kneesrbad:

I've been here only 2 weeks and I have had more than 10 non-consecutive AF days... I'm a 20 year daily drinker except break during pregnancy and breastfeeding. I've found the supplements that help as well support to keep me from straying. I hope you will find somewhere here what you need to reach your goal!!!

[FarfallaP]

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Kneesrbad,

Welcome to My Way Out! When you return from your all-inclusive vacation, (Have fun!) if you still feel you want to cut down your wine intake, check back in with My Way Out...maybe post a New Thread introducing yourself on the Starting Out section, that way more people will see it.

Some people want to quit entirely, some want to just reduce their alcohol consumption...most of us start with ordering/reading the My Way Out book, available from this website, and then we read, read, read all the many stories we can on here of exactly HOW people do it. If your husband is ready to join you, it will be that much easier.

Again, welcome, and have a good time on your holiday... FarfallaP