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    #1

    The truth never hurts!!

    I am a long term high functioning drinker who has been there and done just about everything out there. I started out in collage with a beer on the wekends and every time I drank I would end up with a woman I didnt know and doing stupid stuff. I was a binge drinker from day one and I guess fortunetly not often. Got married at 30 and hoped that would settle me down...WRONG!! I had two beautiful children who I addore and I am now a grandparent with a wonderful grandaughter who calls me grad-paw, she's from Georgia so what do you expect. I have progressed from a few beers to a bottle of wine to a bottle and a half and still have the insane idea that its not affecting me. I know you have all been here before but I just feel the need to get this off my chest and out where I can finally deal with it.

    I have had years where I didnt drink anything at all and years where it has affected me to the point where I am not sure what is real and what isn't. I have had parents die from this addiction ( MY DAD WAS ONLY 63) and my Aunt died from liver disease at 52, so why dont I get it????

    Thank you all for listening to me and any word of encouragement are welcome. I am not sure why I posted my photo but felt it was the honest thing to do.
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    #2
    The truth never hurts!!

    Hi Beach and welcome. You have come to a great place to help you with this. My dad died at 58 from alcoholism so I understand the "why don't I get this?" It is rather perplexing. Wishing you the best. If you work this program it will work. And this is a great place for support.....
    I'm really easy to get along with once people learn to worship me

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      #3
      The truth never hurts!!

      Welcome Beachwalker,

      The best suggestion I can make is arm yourself with as much information as you can. Have you read the book, My Way Out, yet? It's definitely worth it. Also, log on here and read all that you can. It's important to have a plan. The book suggests 30 days abstinence, but that seemed too daunting to me. I set smaller goals for myself that I could possibly attain. You may also want to consider an anti-depressant/anti-anxiety med. Plus, MWO offers a drinktracker which puts it out there. That has helped me a lot. I had 17 AF days in April, 18 AF days in May, and I am aiming for 19 AF days in June. Prior to finding MWO, I was drinking at least a bottle of wine most nights of the week. I do believe that this program can really help to change a person's drinking habits. Plus, the wonderful benefit is the ability to talk online with people who absolutely understand and empathize with what you are experiencing. One of the best suggestions that people here have made more than once is to fill your drinking time up with other activities. I did most of my drinking at home alone. Needless to say, I have been to the grocery store, the garden shop, the mall, more times than I can count lately, but it gets me out of my drinking place and time. You can do this...one day at a time. Good luck. Look forward to hearing from you again.

      Julie

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        #4
        The truth never hurts!!

        Thanks for your responce

        Thanks Lushy and Julie, I am just starting to come to grips with my drinking and need all the help I can get.

        Thanks again!!
        Rick

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          #5
          The truth never hurts!!

          Welcome, you have come to a great place and you can get you life back here.
          bear
          What St. Frances of Assisi said of himself is true for me.
          ?If God can work through me He can work through anybody.?

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            #6
            The truth never hurts!!

            Hello Beachwalker, and welcome.
            I've a problem with vodka.
            A while ago, I couldn't have cared less what effect it was having on me. I didn't care how long I was going to live. My life was done. Then my daughter presented us with a daughter of her own, and a little spark of hope appeared and I decided to try and sort myself out.
            What a stroke of luck it was, when 'Google' supplied this site. It's a wonderful place, full of equally wonderful people. It has totally turned my life around. Now I want to see and do as much as I can before I die, which, hopefully will be in a very long time. I might even see my grandaughter have a child of her own.

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              #7
              The truth never hurts!!

              Hi Beach and Welcome to MWO ....

              Well done for taking the first step, Wine was my problem too, several bottles a day, but after 6 months here i'm doing much better.

              Download the book, it's really inspirational .....

              BB xx
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                #8
                The truth never hurts!!

                Welcome Beachwalker! All too well do I know that feeling of doing the same thing over and over hoping for a different result. Great things have happened for me in a short time and can for you too.

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                  #9
                  The truth never hurts!!

                  Hi Beachwalker,
                  Welcome to MWO. I can really relate to the 'why don't I get it?' It just doesn't make sense does it? This site helps for sure, trying to stop can be lonely so its great to have such a great bunch of people to share it with. Hope it helps you.
                  Suz
                  Happy to be sober since 07 Sept 09.

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                    #10
                    The truth never hurts!!

                    Hi beachwalker..welcome on board..maybe there are some strategies you used that worked when you stopped for YEARS!...Wow

                    It must be so hard to have gone so long and then back on it again..HOWEVER you are right on track again..so good luck to you..

                    Cassy

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                      #11
                      The truth never hurts!!

                      Hi Beach and welcome.
                      This is a great site and full of a lot of support. You will find a lot of answers to your questions here. One of the biggest things I have learned and continue to learn about are my triggers to drinking. It has helped substantially and had I never made it here I don't know where I would have ended up either. I shudder to think

                      I wish you the best and keep posting.
                      "Keep your eyes and heart focused on the end goal at all times, and never settle for less."

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                        #12
                        The truth never hurts!!

                        Thanks to all of you!

                        I am grateful for all of the responses and yes its very hard to have gone three years AF and then back to drinking wine in excess once again. I have never been able to just have one glass of wine and before I know it the whole bottle is gone and I want more. I will have to think how I went so long AF and what mindset I was in at the time. I will download MWO and hope that her story will inspire me, but deep down I know its whats in your heart and mind that inspires you to become who you want to be. With help from the people I see on this site and help from the supplements I know I can begin this new journey.

                        Thanks again everyone.
                        Rick

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                          #13
                          The truth never hurts!!

                          Rick,
                          You certainly sound like you are in the right mindset right now!! Good luck.
                          "Keep your eyes and heart focused on the end goal at all times, and never settle for less."

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                            #14
                            The truth never hurts!!

                            Hi Beachwalker and welcome!

                            Sorry I posted to you on someone else thread. You'd think I'd figure this out by now.....Anyway, glad you found us and really glad you decided to try again to live life outside of the bottle. Looking forward to hearing more from you!!
                            Learning to live life on the outside of a bottle. :flower:

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                              #15
                              The truth never hurts!!

                              I can relate

                              Hi Beachwalker, I can really relate to your post. My mom and dad both had drinking problems, my dad died of esophagal cancer at 63, a hard drinking and smoking merchant marine. My mom takes a boatload of vitamins every day and hopes that counteracts her wine drinking and cigarette smoking. I am on the vitamin drink recommended here, but still love the wine. It is hard, but with the support here and encouragement I have cut down. Once when my son was young I decided to quit and did for 4 years! I often wonder what my mindset was then that enabled me to do that and how I can get that back. See, we have alot in common. Keep posting! :welcome:
                              The more we appreciate life, the more life appreciates and bestows us with more goodness.

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