How can I get recover from this addiction?

[johncaroll]

Hi, I'm Addicted to marijuana and an alcoholic, I have been doing this for almost 7 years since my father died. I want to have a recovery from this addiction and I want to fix all the failures that I've done to my mom and family. I am really struggling right now I just want some advice to fix this problem thank you!

[FlyAway]

Hi John. Nice to meet you and I'm glad you're here.

I'm very sorry for your loss and the pain you've been experiencing. I think a lot of us here used alcohol to numb us from feeling pain or stress or anything really. It's a temporary relief, but the pain never goes away if you don't deal with it. Getting sober can be painful itself because you really need to stop running from the pain and embrace it and explore it. You need to find a way to make peace with it and live with it.

You will hear talk about making a "plan" on MWO and using the Toolbox. A plan is made up of "tools" that will help you in your journey to sobriety. There are ways to make this easier. Willpower is not enough. The MWO book has a plan to follow. I haven't read it personally. But it involves dietary supplements such as kudzu and L-glutamine which you can buy at a health food store, hypnosis CDs, prescription meds if you choose, meditation, exercise, etc. There are some helpful books too. I personally loved and strongly recommend Jason Vale's Kick The Drink Easily. Others liked Alan Carr's The Easy Way to Quit Drinking. Other books are mentioned in the book section of this site. The Toolbox is a stickied post at the top of the Monthly Abstinence section of the site, or you can find a link in my signature. It is a post devoted to tools which other members found helpful in their journey. You need to decide what tools you are going to use. Usually a multi-tiered plan is best. Don't leave anything to chance.

If you have a "witching hour" or a drinking place, a time or place that triggers drinking thoughts in you, you should try to change up your routine. If coming home from work is your trigger, then go to the gym or go for a walk or the library or just something different. If cooking dinner is your trigger then order takeout or have your spouse cook or do anything you can to avoid the trigger. Sometimes just sipping a nonalcoholic drink is enough to satisfy the craving. But you must be prepared.

If you have a craving know that it's just your mind talking to you and that it will pass. The human brain loves patterns and order and it quickly forms neural pathways when you do something over and over. So you have a neural pathway built in your brain that tells you to drink. Picture a path that you travel through the woods. Forging a new path through thick underbrush will be hard and take time, but you can make a new path by taking it every day. It will get clearer and clearer and the old path will become overgrown and eventually will be imperceptible.

[See the Light]

Hey John- What FlyAway just said is GREAT advice. Like they say in AA meetings, it works if you work on it. That holds true of any program, not just AA. Whatever you do, make sure you are doing something. Booze has a plan for your life. Make sure you have a plan in response. Best wishes

[ShawTHo]

Hi John!

i know it's been a month already, but i'm curious on how are you right now?

i can relate myself to you. you see, i'm been addicted to drugs for almost half of my life. And now, i am too desperate to find my way out of this mess i created. so i'm wondering how you cope up with your addiction?

[danpeet]

John just don't let addiction control you it can ruin your life. Maybe you should seek a help from the experts

[ShawTHo]

Thanks for the reply dan. What kind of experts are they? Do you think it can help me? I found recovery programs rehab here, do you think they can help me there? I'm afraid for what will be happening to me if I go there and am not fully sure if I have to go there or I just need to stay with my family until I reach my recovery. I'm struggling right now. Please help me.

[TJones16]

I hope your okay now John same as goes to the other people on this thread. Dont give up.

[Alex27]

I know what you feel and i know how hard to have a problem like that, it's because i also become an addict. I almost ruined my life because of this addiction. Then one day i told my self that i need to stop, that time i seek help and start looking for some therapies for my addiction i searched lot's of website on the net about Drug Center Program i also talk to specialist about my condition and i found NA that i'm currently attending right now. I can't say i'm fully recovered but i know i will. And i know you too people can fight your addiction.

[gabrielle11]

Hi, I'm Addicted to marijuana and an alcoholic, I have been doing this for almost 7 years since my father died. I want to have a recovery from this addiction and I want to fix all the failures that I've done to my mom and family. I am really struggling right now I just want some advice to fix this problem thank you!

hi. I'm not an expert as a adviser , but for me you have a god choice to recover your addiction and fix all of your failures to your mom and family. i just share my to you john this site , i hope that it can help you with.