I only started drinking in my late 20's, I got divorced when I was 30, started drinking more, got re married at 38, to a wonderful man, who only drinks socially, as his father was an alcoholic. We have had alot of problems with T's ex wife and his daughter, they have treated me abmominably, T and I argue as he protects his daughter, all she has ever wanted was to get her parents back together, she is now 19, she lies about me,lies about everything, so over the last few yrs my drinking escalated,sober or drunk, our arguments, and only arguments have been about his family and how I have been treated.
I joined MWO in Jan, did 48 days AF, stayed sober for 75 days, T was so proud of me, and again he allowed his daughter to put a spoke in our lives, this was nearly 2 months ago, our relationship has been up and down these last few weeks,I have been seeing a therapist since this started,which has helped me realize how I have reacted to situations, regarding his daughter, can be changed, we went for coffee a month ago, he tells me should call it quits, needless to say I turnd to the bottle, a few days later, he wants us to try,2 weeks ago, he went away on business, asked if we could have little contact with each other, so gave him his space, he came back last Mon, I showed him I was trying, still he told me he loved me, then last Wed, he moved out, he loves me, he wants me but.... I have not spoken to him in over a week, he mailed me on Tues and told me that alcohol, has and still is a huge part of our history, even although, I had been drinking again, not in front of him, he tells me that he needs the time away, and will contact me when he gets back , and we can sit and chat about what we have and have had.... All, I thought T ever wanted was for me to stop drinking..8 weeks ago he told me he has never been happier.Is this normal, has anyone else experienced a situation when they thought they were doing the right thing by quitting, thinking its going to help, and then all they care about, falls apart, this is destroying me, have cut back on my drinking, have only one or two, will stop again, psyching myself up, have got my meds, so Sat, is D day. T is back on Mon.
Sorry to have waffled on, just so confused and sad
I joined MWO in Jan, did 48 days AF, stayed sober for 75 days, T was so proud of me, and again he allowed his daughter to put a spoke in our lives, this was nearly 2 months ago, our relationship has been up and down these last few weeks,I have been seeing a therapist since this started,which has helped me realize how I have reacted to situations, regarding his daughter, can be changed, we went for coffee a month ago, he tells me should call it quits, needless to say I turnd to the bottle, a few days later, he wants us to try,2 weeks ago, he went away on business, asked if we could have little contact with each other, so gave him his space, he came back last Mon, I showed him I was trying, still he told me he loved me, then last Wed, he moved out, he loves me, he wants me but.... I have not spoken to him in over a week, he mailed me on Tues and told me that alcohol, has and still is a huge part of our history, even although, I had been drinking again, not in front of him, he tells me that he needs the time away, and will contact me when he gets back , and we can sit and chat about what we have and have had.... All, I thought T ever wanted was for me to stop drinking..8 weeks ago he told me he has never been happier.Is this normal, has anyone else experienced a situation when they thought they were doing the right thing by quitting, thinking its going to help, and then all they care about, falls apart, this is destroying me, have cut back on my drinking, have only one or two, will stop again, psyching myself up, have got my meds, so Sat, is D day. T is back on Mon.
Sorry to have waffled on, just so confused and sad
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