For Rachelita's Mom - Copper

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For Rachelita's Mom - Copper

Copper, I don't know where you live. But, there are people who can help with an intervention. They know how to do it without fighting. Maybe this is something she needs to get her into the in-patient facility?

[copper]

For Rachelita's Mom - Copper

Dear toughintexas, I am hoping your check up was fine, a clean bill of health!!
I haven't posted for awhile, my daugher used some of the words and thoughts I posted to vent. I let her know I wouldn't post any more, but she told me not to stop. I am unsure if this is helping her that I post...since she reads it. Any thoughts out there on this subject? Copper, rachalita's mom

[IAD]

For Rachelita's Mom - Copper

Copper, Have you tried sending her a Private Message......If she's still montering this site she may answer you. I have gotten one message from her awhile back, but it was a ramdom question on my private message. good luck Copper. IAD.

[toughintexas]

For Rachelita's Mom - Copper

Copper, thanks for the prayers, I'm home, and I didn't have to have any CT scans or MRI's, so that is usually a good sign, I should get biopsy reports tomorrow. Yes, I think maybe the first night Rach was on here, she was in the need help asap section....and on chat, I was one of a few on then, and she was really upset, and seemed to be in utter danger physically....I PM'd her during chat, and she sent me her address, etc, phone, and told me she couldn't get 911 to come over, would I try, I did, and they called me when they got there, I told them she was a distant relative, I was just very concerned, and told them I was afraid she had alcohol poisioning, we had touched base, but she'd not answered lately, could've fallen etc....they said they were talking with her....she had told us all that day that she wanted to go to the hospital for detox, which we knew at a large hospital they could do for 3 dys if she were in danger, and she told us that she wanted to go to an inpatient treatment center, I was hoping that would happen. I saw later on that she didn't go to the hospital even that night, and I never really knew what happened, I was just glad she was ok that night when they got there. I know she was struggling to detox at home once, and I'd read she was with you, but that was the last I knew of what was going on. I'm sorry to hear she is detoxing or drinking that badly again. You are soooo right to not let her drive. I hope she'll try out the inpatient center if that's her only hope, Christian or not, if it'll save her life, and she can't do it on her own, then it seems that, or the hospital ER is the only answer. I've been on my knees praying for so many things lately, that I wish she'd try that too...miracles can happen. I hope she'll be ok. Please let us know! Rach, if you are reading this, you know how much this group cares about you, and you need to do whatever you have to, to get well. You have a lifetime of great things ahead of you, just get this beast off your back. If I thought I'd die from alcohol, which it has crossed my mind before this site, I'd spend 30 days in jail to get straight, if it kept me alive and gave me a second chance for myself, and my loved ones. You seem to have just cried Wolf too many times, many of us do, and you have to finally be humble enough to admit you need outside help, no matter what form its in!!! Love, TIT

[copper]

For Rachelita's Mom - Copper

It has been so hard emotionally, I am trying to think positve.
Tough, I pray by now you've gotten your biopsy report back and it's clean. I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers too. IAD, I am not sure sending a message to Rach through this site is a good idea, but she will read regular emails from me. But I really appreciate your insight and help. Any help I appreciate.
Rach is going to therapy (we're gladly paying) but since the therapist isn't a "specialist" I fear Rach isn't investing like she could. That's just my take with some of the remarks she's made. I may be wrong but problems are problems, alcohol and eating disorders are symptoms, and couldn't a regular old therapist help, that is, if the person was receptive?? And of course they've got to form a trust.
She is trying to get a application filled out for in-patient, and the process is very tough, long and intensive. (it's the free Christian facility) If any of you who read this could encourage her to complete the process and go into the waiting period with hope that would be great. Right now she says she is hopeless. She talked to her dad last night, very though on him too.
I pray Rach read your message Tough, coming from her peers is much better than coming from us, plus you understand where she is.
God Bless you all who are struggling with addictions, may you defeat it love, grace and inner peace.
~Copper

[toughintexas]

For Rachelita's Mom - Copper

I think she probably does need a therapist that specializes in addictions, or they just don't really get it either....see if you can find one, there should be one around. She needs someone that is on top of the game of eating disorders, alcohol, etc.... Rach, you fill out those papers girl! Get in there and start the New Year off right! You can do this! You have such support, and you are very smart, just get in that treatment center! Copper, I haven't gotten my tests yet, I'm calling Monday, I'll let you all know. Thanks from the bottom of my heart for the prayers and thoughts. You are a great Mom! We are glad you and Rach are here with us to go down this journey!

[copper]

For Rachelita's Mom - Copper

Thanks for responding...my bad, I guess a specialist is in order, but that isn't going to happen until she gets a job, then she can get her car back and drive herself places that she needs to be. She told me a couple days ago she was going to go to a MY Way Out meeting today, but I don't know if she went. I emailed her but no response.
I will be anxious to learn of your results...goodl luck and my God bless. ~Copper.

[copper]

For Rachelita's Mom - Copper

I misunderstood Rach about the "my way out meetings", she was talking about an on-line meeting.
She actually called me up and voiced her concerns and problems with me and how I am "handling" things. This was a big step for her. I was so glad she spoke up, to me this is progress. No one said being a mom was going to be easy....and oh my goodness it's not.
~copper