He has a very stressful job whilst I dont work, I stay at home. He doesnt drink Monday to Wednesday but by Thursday evenng he is desperate for a drink and tonight was no different. 5.45 he walked in, opened the bottle and an hour later the bottle had gone. It wil be the same tomorrow, Saturday and Sunday.
We have had a good marriage and will celebrate 30 years this coming December but there's no doubt his drinking is affecting our relationship. Ironically, just over a year ago it was him that was worried that I was drinking too much. Yes, I was his drinking buddy (I actually started hours before he came home) and "celebrated" 1 year AF on 9th May.
My sobriety is very precious to me and although the year has not been easy, him drinking and me not, it hasnt really bothered me as much as it is now. I'm worried about the future, about whether our relationship can survive...certainly our physical relationship has deteriorated....a) he passes out and b) if he doesnt, I dont want him anywhere near me smelling of wine.
I have tried talking to him and he did try to slow down for a while (he drank 3/4 of the bottle instead) but that didnt last long. Would appreciate any advice from anyone in a similar position.....thanks.
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