My Mom and Dad have been married for close to 40 years. Our upbringing was good. My father owned his own business which my mother worked at for some years, my brother works at now on a limited basis, and I as his daughter work there 35 hours per week. My father has always drank but last (last five years) its progressively worse. 2-3 or sometimes 4 martinis every night. In addition, he will have a liquid lunch with someone from the office.
Lately, there has been talk of closing the business due to the economy which has brought about nightly fights and after a couple of drinks it only gets worse. My parents have put so much of their own monies into the business and they may not recoup it if we close it now. The past two years, the verbal abuse my mother has taken is out of control. Let me add one more thing, I know how bad the verbal abuse can be, because I am a recovering alcoholic (4 1/2 years) and my husband and kids have told me and are still telling me many stories of what I have done. Someday I hope to publish my story if I can help just 1 person!
Over the past week, my mother has been staying with me, but she feels like her best friend has died. It's breaking my heart. When my dad is actively drinking, he is cruel, demeaning, blaming and my mother has started to believe she's worthless. On the opposite side, my mother can nag, she will not let things go.
I have made an appointment with a psychologist for my mother and I will go with her. My father said he will go later if my mother likes him, but he will never stop drinking or go to AA. My husband and I have explained that we are not taking sides. All my mother does is cry, shake, physical exhaustion. This may sound ridiculous, is there anyway they can work this out without removing the alcohol? Thanks..Courage:new: :thanks:
Lately, there has been talk of closing the business due to the economy which has brought about nightly fights and after a couple of drinks it only gets worse. My parents have put so much of their own monies into the business and they may not recoup it if we close it now. The past two years, the verbal abuse my mother has taken is out of control. Let me add one more thing, I know how bad the verbal abuse can be, because I am a recovering alcoholic (4 1/2 years) and my husband and kids have told me and are still telling me many stories of what I have done. Someday I hope to publish my story if I can help just 1 person!
Over the past week, my mother has been staying with me, but she feels like her best friend has died. It's breaking my heart. When my dad is actively drinking, he is cruel, demeaning, blaming and my mother has started to believe she's worthless. On the opposite side, my mother can nag, she will not let things go.
I have made an appointment with a psychologist for my mother and I will go with her. My father said he will go later if my mother likes him, but he will never stop drinking or go to AA. My husband and I have explained that we are not taking sides. All my mother does is cry, shake, physical exhaustion. This may sound ridiculous, is there anyway they can work this out without removing the alcohol? Thanks..Courage:new: :thanks:
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