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    WOMEN who LOVE too much ~

    By Robin Norwood.
    A friend told me to read this she things it my help me. Hmmmmm just started reading it and can relate to bits of it already! Has anyone else read this book?

    Catch22 x
    Formerly known as Teardrop:l
    sober dry since 11th Jan '2010' relapse/slip on 23/7/13 working in progress ! Sober date 25/7/13 ( True learning has often followed an eclipse, a time of darkness, but with each cycle of my recovery, the light grows stronger and my vision is clearer. (AA)
    my desire to avoid hitting bottom again was more powerful then my desire to drink !
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    WOMEN who LOVE too much ~

    The post above did on my phone could not types alot so here i am on a p.c.
    Review,
    Here are 15points of the following characteistics are typical of women who love too much, i related to a few but atfer reading when they go into depths i could relate to a few more.
    This also can relate to men as well.
    1. Typically, you come from a dyfunctional home in which your emotional needs were not met.
    2. Having received little real nurturing yourself,you try to fill this unmet need vicariously by becoming a care-giver, especailly to men who appear, in some way, needy.
    3. Because you were never able to chage your parent(s) into the warm, loving caretakers you longed for, respond deeply to the familar type of emotionally unavilable man whom you can again try to change, through your love.
    4. Terrified of abandonment, you will do anything to keepa relationship from dissolving.
    5. Almost nothing is too much trouble, takes too much time, or too expensive if it will 'help' the man you are involved with.
    Formerly known as Teardrop:l
    sober dry since 11th Jan '2010' relapse/slip on 23/7/13 working in progress ! Sober date 25/7/13 ( True learning has often followed an eclipse, a time of darkness, but with each cycle of my recovery, the light grows stronger and my vision is clearer. (AA)
    my desire to avoid hitting bottom again was more powerful then my desire to drink !

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      WOMEN who LOVE too much ~

      catch22;1382608 wrote: The post above did on my phone could not types alot so here i am on a p.c.
      Review,
      Here are 15points of the following characteistics are typical of women who love too much, i related to a few but atfer reading when they go into depths i could relate to a few more.
      This also can relate to men as well.
      1. Typically, you come from a dyfunctional home in which your emotional needs were not met.
      2. Having received little real nurturing yourself,you try to fill this unmet need vicariously by becoming a care-giver, especailly to men who appear, in some way, needy.
      3. Because you were never able to chage your parent(s) into the warm, loving caretakers you longed for, respond deeply to the familar type of emotionally unavilable man whom you can again try to change, through your love.
      4. Terrified of abandonment, you will do anything to keepa relationship from dissolving.
      5. Almost nothing is too much trouble, takes too much time, or too expensive if it will 'help' the man you are involved with.
      6. Accutomed to lack of love in personal relationships, you are willing to wait, hope and try harder to please.
      7. You are will to take far more than 50 percebt of the responsibilty, guilt, and blame in amy relationship.
      8. Your self-esteem is citically low and deep inside your do not believe you deserve to be happy. Rather,you believe you must earn the right to enjoy life.
      9. You have a desperate need to control your man and your relationships, having experienced little security in childhood. You mask your efforts to control people and situations as 'being helpful'.
      10. In a relationship, you are much more in touch with your dream of how it could be than with the reality of your situation.
      Formerly known as Teardrop:l
      sober dry since 11th Jan '2010' relapse/slip on 23/7/13 working in progress ! Sober date 25/7/13 ( True learning has often followed an eclipse, a time of darkness, but with each cycle of my recovery, the light grows stronger and my vision is clearer. (AA)
      my desire to avoid hitting bottom again was more powerful then my desire to drink !

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        WOMEN who LOVE too much ~

        catch22;1382609 wrote: 6. Accutomed to lack of love in personal relationships, you are willing to wait, hope and try harder to please.
        7. You are will to take far more than 50 percebt of the responsibilty, guilt, and blame in amy relationship.
        8. Your self-esteem is citically low and deep inside your do not believe you deserve to be happy. Rather,you believe you must earn the right to enjoy life.
        9. You have a desperate need to control your man and your relationships, having experienced little security in childhood. You mask your efforts to control people and situations as 'being helpful'.
        10. In a relationship, you are much more in touch with your dream of how it could be than with the reality of your situation.
        11. You are addicted to men and to emotional pain.
        12. You may be predisposed emtionally and often biochemically to becoming addicted to drugs, alcohol, and/or certain foods, particularly sugary ones.
        13, By being drawn to people with problems that need fixing, or by being enmeshed in situations that are chaotic, uncertain, and emtionally painful, you avoid fucusing on your responsibilty to yourself.
        14. You may have a tendency toward episodes of depression, which you try to forestall through the excitement provided by an unstable relationship.
        15. You are not attracted to men who are kind, stable, reliable and intesrested in you. You find such 'nice' men boring.


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        Formerly known as Teardrop:l
        sober dry since 11th Jan '2010' relapse/slip on 23/7/13 working in progress ! Sober date 25/7/13 ( True learning has often followed an eclipse, a time of darkness, but with each cycle of my recovery, the light grows stronger and my vision is clearer. (AA)
        my desire to avoid hitting bottom again was more powerful then my desire to drink !

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          WOMEN who LOVE too much ~

          Hi Catch:

          I think this might be a book my sisters and I gave my mom about 20 years ago (really!!) because she stayed married to my abusive, narcisstic father.
          The bottom line for her was she stayed with him out of fear and eventually a comfort zone mentality which sounds insane as my mother was a very very successful physician who was named woman of the year in 1985 by the govenor and she made a ton of money...go figure.

          I think. The book should be renamed ' Woman who don't love themselves too much...'
          :l
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